2006-09-17 02:30:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I realize she has a new life now that she is her mother. But just because she is a mom first, why can't she still be a friend. I owe her my support, I know...I still need her too!
2006-09-17 02:35:06 · update #1
Maybe I should have added "defensive parents please don't answer." ha ha.
2006-09-17 02:40:37 · update #2
you tell her that you'de like to spend more time with her and you enjoy her company and see if you can "schedule" time with her. She'll realize how silly it is to have to pencil you into her lilfe and then slowly she'll hopefully relax on the parenting... if it is indeed so excessive.
2006-09-17 02:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by kitkool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be patient. It will take her some time to find a balance. It is hard keeping everyone else happy after a new child is born. As the child gets older it will get easier for her to find free time to spend with you. The child must come first right now. You could always help her out the best you can. Things you could do is like go to the store with her. Sometimes doing it alone can be a hassle. Help her do some housework, to free up some of her time. Go out to lunch with her so she doesn't stay cooped up in the house all the time. Pay attention when you are around her & help where you can. She is a parent now & the child needs the best influance it can get. If you do not want to help with the child or help her then you are not much of a friend. If you can not deal with the fact that things are differnt now & will always be different then find another friend. The child will always come 1st and you will not be able to stop that. You say she is being excessive you don't say how.
2006-09-17 02:50:44 · answer #2 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you probably feel left out of her life. But, if this is her first child she's probably very excited about it and wants to spend all of her time with the baby. Be supportive of her and help her along the way. She's a mom now and believe it or not baby comes first. Put aside your feelings for a little while and let her concentrate on her new role as mommy. Maybe there's some things you could do with her that involves the baby. Like going to the park, or even watching the baby so she can have so self time. I'm sure she would appreciate that. sometimes as a friend we have to put ourselves aside and do what's best for the other person. Hope you and your friend have a long lasting friendship.
2006-09-17 02:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by WYNELL G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be selfish. She has a new life and you need to be supportive of it.
2006-09-17 02:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you hate her child so much?
2006-09-17 02:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy girl....how about it?
2006-09-17 02:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by pimpa1949 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt tell her anything
2006-09-17 02:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋