I am 35 and over the past few years i have become more and more impotent. My wife has been supportive, but is growing more frustrated. Medications work at times, but when they don't she feels more disappointed... Not that she says anything, but i can tell. She is bi and I have let her get a gf to help with her "needs." And we use some "toys" that she has purchased.
I have discovered that she has been chatting/having cyber sex/camming with men online. I am not mad, but not sure if I should confront her about it. I am afraid that this might lead to her being with another man. What do you think? Even so, is that wrong?? Should i let her? Do you think she needs a "man" at times?
2006-09-17 02:24:57 · 25 answers · asked by b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
XXXXXXXXX I think you should be mad. In fact, that would really piss me off if I were my husband in that same position. Your impotence should not be her excuse for committing adultry. Cyber sex? Come on? If she can have cyber sex with some stranger why can't she have that kind of relationship with you as well? The stranger may as well be impotant also using the internet for his pleaseure. Having sex with another woman does not, in no way, justify the fact that she's doing it because she can't have sex with you. Come on hun, wake up and smell the coffee!!!! It's not a penis she's getting there either. So your impotence isn't the facter in her lesbian affair. I absolutely think this is wrong. Absolutely wrong. Not only should you tell her this but you shouldn't allow this to continue. I could very well write more on my thoughts on this subject but the more I think about it the more it's teeing me of to think you are alright with this situation. The only man, she should need is her husband. STOP LETTING YOUR IMPOTENCE JUSTIFY HER ADULTRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-17 02:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-20 14:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go see a doctor if you haven't. There are a lot of things that will make you impotent but most are fixable. If you have and still can't then my friend you can use that little tonge of your and make her happy as ever with a little effort. I guarentee that you won't be together long if you let her be with another man
2006-09-17 02:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by Shaboomshaboom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to stop the cyber sex before you loose your wife.
Find other ways to help her & you together.
Your problem may be over stress.
Be as open with your wife as you can holding things in can also keep you from functioning the way you like, cause its always in the back of your mind.
Its kinda hard to be or stay in the mood when something has you agitaded.
Don't let her be with another man, she married you not the sex.
If you do let her be with another man it will sooner or later cause a divorce.
Find a sex therapist if you can afford it, they might be able to help.
2006-09-17 03:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why WORRIES.............
Start doing excersises, brisk and speedy
walk in the mornings and evenings. This wud
impove you.
Start doing yoga, meditation in the
morning and in the evening. you will
find impovement within 15 to 20 days.
Take vegitables and fruits as a major
part of your eatings.Add apples daily.
Feel the LOVE MAKING in you. Talk to
yourselves sexually and find how your
P E N I S reacts. U talk to your P E N I S
about your wif's body parts. Do not loose HOPE.
H O P E is the important medicinE to your cock now.
Stay always very close to your wife. Crate a
romantic admoshphere arrround. Use good
smelling items.
Avoid toys. Instead use your Tongue ............
Use your fingers.
If u need any further good sugggestion, and advise for both of you, please give me yours and your wife's mail id.
I would like to advise her to stop online sex.
I hope u wud remember me !
Athi says............
Ask her support during this period.
2006-09-17 02:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a committed relationship between one man and one woman - nothing more. You're both wrong and doing serious damage to the relationship here - her by going outside the marriage and you for condoning it. Get into sex therapy, marriage therapy, talk to a trusted pastor and whatever else it takes to get this marriage back on solid ground. Continue to seek medical treatment, but many times once the relationship is in good shape and the emotional aspects are on track the impotency disappears. God bless and good luck. ~Nisa
2006-09-17 02:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by newfsdrool 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said impotent, not paralized. Until you have exhausted every possibility you need to confront her(not in a harsh way, just talk), let her know that it bothers you, and do whatever you can to keep 'other men' out of the picture.
2006-09-17 02:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really haven't looked into what you can do. There are attachments for men to use who are Impotent. You have hands you have other things you can do and really satisfy her.
What is your real problem if you not trying every possible route?
2006-09-17 02:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is like most women, it isn't all about getting your erect penis into her vagina to her. There are so many varied ways of pleasing one another sexually, people never need dwell on one simple function of it.
She sounds like she is blossoming in her femininity and very much in touch with her sexuality, but it sounds like your sexual growth is stunted. If you want to keep her, focus on pleasing her in bed. Learn what to do to bring the joy back to your marriage. Maybe your erectile problems will pass away. Ever consider that?
As a man, you have no excuse not to provide great joy to your wife, because the internet is full of resources! I won't give you links, because if you want to keep her badly enough, you will find them yourself. If you don't get cracking on this soon, you will surely lose her interest and in due time, you will lose her.
2006-09-17 03:15:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey. Do think are you duing any favour to her by allowing her to have some relations with a female ? She has also to fulfil her desire for sex if you cant full fill that. She is a humanbeing afterall , if she is having some cybes sex on line , then whats wrong in that . She also wants to see a man with his penis errect. Her husband cant show it to her and she is not calling or going to some other man to see it in person. If she enjoys a bit of sex with a normal man who can act according to her desires then whats wrong in that?
If you find her engaged with a guy on bed or having sex body to bodyin person i will say then she is crossing the limit.
Man you should be thankfull to her that she has not divorced you yet. which if she wants she can have any time from yo legally
2006-09-18 07:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by soofi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋