Why do people believe that sex before marriage is wrong? What is the right age to lose it.. Those people who think sex beforre marriage is wrong don't you think they had sex before marriage too? Even if they deny it? I'm confused they have so many contradictory points... What do you believe?
2006-09-17 02:17:09 · 16 answers · asked by fersitf 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
what if you are protected and you are under 18? not me but i have some friends with this dilemma... They go to catholic school
2006-09-17 02:24:25 · update #1
yes when you are ready. see religion is really something that upsets me sometimes because peoples opinions are based on all that. and i hate how our ****** religion teacher said it was wrong 4 parents to put their kids on birth control. so i guess he feels if you have sex u cant use a condom.. cuz that makes it more sinful...? lol i dk but tht **** really pissed me off hotness. lol religion is annoyin sometimes because to me some people sound stupid & are annoying when they use what their religion says as an excuse for something. plus many other reasons y religion is annoyin.. l0l... wow i might get beat up 4 that.
2006-09-20 14:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex before marriage? It's considered wrong in some countries where a person can be imprisoned or killed for doing so. It's considered the wrong thing to do in religious communities. Socially speaking, the right age (as far as I'm concerned) is when a person- male and female- is mature, responsible, and financially capable of dealing with the consequences. Then, marriage is IMO better, but being in a committed relationship is important. I know who my childrens' father is.
2006-09-17 09:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you go to catholic school or not. it's a personal choice. and sex at this age is a choice. I certainly don't think it's right for ages between 12-17 at least. You don't know what you are doing and you are not in your right frame of mind. YOu are all too young. Have self respect for you body and don't try to impress anyone or do it for peer pressure, cause in the end you are the one who will face the concequence. it's not worth it. Besides at this age Boys only want girls cause it's a ego thing and they do it for their benefit. So wait till you find someone who you care for and love and make it a good experience that you won' t regret.
Oh and I don't think sex before marriage is wrong at all. It's better to know how compatible you are sexually with your man before you get married.
2006-09-18 14:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok,let me break this question down and answer each part of it seperately.
1.Why do people believe that sex before marriage is wrong?
That is their belief.You cannot force people to believe the same as you,just as they shouldnt or cant force you to believe as they do.Often times,it has to do with their religion.Not always,some are just that way they want to wait,just try to understand that not everyone believes as you do or you believe as they do you just have to accept others believe differently.
2.What is the right age to lose it?
There is no right age.Let me be honest,if you are old enough for a child,if you are old enough to be responsible for another human being,if you are old enough to handle possibly contracting an std,if you are old enough to speak to your partner about their previous partners as well as yours with this person,if you are old enough to handle the emotional and physical aspects of sex you are ready.Teens are not ready for sex.They feel they are because their hormones are going wild,they never truely are ready 100% before adulthood.Many,mostly females and even some males regret having sex at a young age and wished that they would have waited.So,think twice teens before you do have sex.
3.No,believe it or not some actually want to wait.Some actually do wait,they wait and they dont have to deny anything because they waited.It is possible.I believe anyone can have sex when they wish,but they need to control the hormonal point of it and think about every possible point of sex.The risks involved and things of that sort.Even if you use protection(condoms,birth control,etc) you can still get pregnant.The chance may be minimized but it is still there.The only 110% accurate way to prevent pregnancy is adstinence!
Ultimately,anyone can have sex at any age,if they can be responsible about it and arent doing it just to fit in with a crowd.Do it because you are ready and you love that person not because someone forces you.
2006-09-17 12:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people who have sex the first time later regret who their partner was. I dont believe in waiting until you are married to have sex. Some just say that, because they are real christains and dont believe in sharing such a wonderful moment with anyone but the one they love. Because why share it with someone you are going to forget 10 years down the road.
I regret losing mine when i did, but i dont believe in waiting until marriage, most people out there arent virgins when you meet them. Unless you dated back in high school.
There is no right or wrong age to lose your virginty, its when you find someone you love so much that makes you consider having sex besides the hormones. Sex with someone you love is a lot better then just doing it out of the spur of the moment!
Some people may lie about having sex before marriage, to try to be a good example for younger people.
Some lie, because they dont want their wife/husband to find out 10 years down the road they had sex with someone else.
Some people are honest about it, I have found people who have went to church seem to be somewhat honest.
You never know. Believe what you see and not what you hear.
Anyway I believe sex before marriage isnt wrong. Just make sure you are ready and that you both love each other, or you will regret it later.
2006-09-17 09:29:40 · answer #5 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I didn't have sex before I got married. And yes I do think it is wrong. God gave us the pleasure of sex for the wedding bed only. And sex is so special that it should be saved for the wedding bed. I was a 28 year old virgin bride and I have never regretted it. My husband and I have a wonderful love life.
You don't need sex before you are married. YOu should wait for marriage.
2006-09-17 11:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how old you are, although the older you are, the better. I was eighteen and in a serious relationship. It lasted 3 years. Be smart about who you choose to have sex with. Make sure feelings are there, and the guy is not out for one thing. Which most teenage boys want. Just be careful, and most importantly, protect yourself.
2006-09-17 09:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sasi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex before marriage is bad for the individual and bad for society.
The Bible reflects this truth, as it innately knows the design of men and women.
If we had two parallel universes, one with pop-culture sex, and one that preserved marriage concepts, then the 2nd 'earth' would have more self-respect, life satisfaction, better health, and less drug abuse, abortions, divorce, child neglect, and a host of other missing woes.
If you can't make the connection between these concepts, then you're 'blind'.
2006-09-17 09:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by MK6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i started having sex at a young age. in hindsight it was a very bad idea. protection doesn't always work either.that kind of intimacy brings up a lot of feelings that your not emotionally ready to handle at young ages. even 18 is too young. I'm not being a hypocrite here it's just personal experience.not to mention that most guys aren't prepared to handle the consequences if protection fails. i even tell my younger cuzs this.
2006-09-17 11:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by bama g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people say that sex before marriage is wrong because it's in the Bible . . . and yes, I do believe that most people who say don't have sex before marriage, did it themselves . . . I understand wanting to please the adults in your life by always doing what's "right" . . but you have to live your own life . . if you allow the adults in your life to make decisions for you now, they will be trying to control what you do for the rest of your life . . trust me, it happened to me until I started standing up for myself . . . make your own choices . . do what makes you happy . . . they have lived their lives and made their own decisions . . you have the same right to do the same . . . but only do what you are comfortable with . . . when it comes to having sex, when it's time to, you will know . . . but don't just do it because he wants it or he says he loves you . . or the oh-so-famous line, "if you love me, you'll have sex with me" . . don't let anyone pressure you into having sex until YOU are ready . . make sure that it's something that you want, too . . .
2006-09-17 09:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋