I work late on saturday nights and i do have a fairly big lunch before i start work, But I never get any thing to eat when i finish work on saturdays. My Fiancee finishes work at 6PM and i finish work at 9PM but he still isn't willing to make anything. Am i wrong to ask in the first place???
Normally by Saturdays i am really tired due to me working 42 hours then i also go to college. Is there anything i can do or say to make him realise this. Im 17 yrs old and still only 8 stone, but still fairly tall. I've been under weight for years and it worry's me that he cant help me with that one little thing.
2006-09-17 02:11:50 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we also only have a vending machine for drinks we dont store food at work in our fridge as the people on other shifts will take it. And you wont get a look in even if you leave your name on it?
2006-09-17 02:23:12 · update #1
This does annoy me as he works on sunday and i will cook him a roast ready for when he gets home and i only get 1 day off a week but i still do that and most of the washing for him. as i need the clothes for work on monday an if i leeave it for him i wont get them till mid week.
2006-09-17 02:29:12 · update #2
i was also abandoned by my family almost a year ago?????
2006-09-18 08:40:24 · update #3
Talk to him. Don't just ask him, but expalain how you feel, and then ask him. If he doesn't want to help you, I wonder about your relationship.
2006-09-17 02:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Jason W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both live in the same place therefore BOTH MUST take care of the things that need to be done i.e. both do laundry, both do dishes, both do cleaning, both prepare meals. Saturday evening he prepares one for you and Sunday you prepare one for him. Alternate tasks i.e. this week he does the laundry, next week you do it.
If he doesn't like it then, tell him to go find himself an other maid, because you are not his.
PS. The girls suggesting she use her vagina as a bargaining tool is just so very wrong. That may get the desired results, just like shooting someone with a gun will also get them quite were just asking them to be quite would have sufficed. Seriously, that is not honourable and never will be. Also, consider the fact that doing that may lead your man to show you what he thinks about that, and go get it some place else.Therefore,be carefull and think before you do.
Most importantly, live life to the fullest, always! Hurt none!
2006-09-17 02:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by StephenJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could pop in a microwave meal, takes 2 minutes. If you are pressed for time, why couldn't your fiance make enough to eat for 2 and put your portion aside for when you come home? Your eating patterns are not ideal, and you know this, he should too. I think there is a deeper problem here though, lack of compromise, unwillingness to listen, let alone laziness. You are engaged to him to spend your life with him, and one small thing you ask of him and he folds his arms with a flat NO for an answer. You say one little thing, but i don't see how love and support when you have a weight problem is one little thing! You need to have a serious talk with him about this. Is there anyone else willing to help you? Think about how your future with him will be if he continues to act like this. You have your life ahead of you, you control it, Take charge and give this lazy sod a boot up the ****. If that fails, there are plenty of people out there for you. Look after yourself.
2006-09-17 02:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by sparklybrighteyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you doing? You're still a kid. Seventeen is an age that should be enjoyed, not full of engagements and who cooks and cleans what. Believe me you wont realise it yet but you have still got to grow up and find yourself. I suppose next you will be talking about starting a bloody family.
Get a grip. Finish the lazy ****. Go back to your parents, or get a place with some mates and act your age, not mine.
2006-09-17 10:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess he is quite young too? may be he is used to being served by his mum. But whatever his background, he needs to know that now he is living with you - his lover, and he should not expect the same from you and not contributing to the family.
He is a man, not a boy. If he refuses, you should seriously consider your relationship. Men need to take up responsiblity, no matter how small it is. It shows how much he cares about the relationship and you. It doesn't need to taste fantastic, but he needs to realise his part in the family.
Best wishes to your work and study - I was studying and working at the same time before, I know it's tough. But let me say how glad I am not to give up studying. Keep up the good work. :p
2006-09-17 04:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong. It should be who ever finishes work/college first prepares the meal. We no longer live in the dark ages. If he refuses then maybe you should just make your own meals all the time and let him make his own, maybe that will change his mind. Is he like this in the rest of your relationship, ie selfish and unwilling to do his share, if so, do you really want to share the next 60/70 years like that? Just think about it.
Take care. Hope everything works out like you want it to.
2006-09-17 02:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by book 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gets home first he should cook for you.
Try and talk to him and come to an agreement where you share the chores equally.
I know it can be easier said than done. I used to live with a guy who wouldn't do a thing for me, he never cooked for me even though I worked full time and he didn't work at all!
Relationships are about caring and sharing and if he isn't willing to help maybe he isn't right for you.
2006-09-17 02:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by babs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not wrong to ask for food when you get home especially after working for so long and your exhausted. my husband works 16 hrs a day and is completly that same way when he gets home so most of the time when i can i get him whatever he needs. its just common curtesy to do this for your loved one, but ask yourself do you do the same for him when he's tired? if the answer is no then start if its yes then talk to him about it calmly and if it doesn't change then stop doing things for him when he's tired. and when he's upset about it explain why you stopped and tell him you start helping him again when he helps you. it might teach him not to take you for granted.
2006-09-17 02:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by PyroPixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the situation was reversed he would expect you to feed him. You are NOT wrong. He is being unfair, lazy and selfish. You need a new fiance or b/f, this one will not change after you marry him. If he changes he'll only get worse because then you'll be married to him.
2006-09-17 02:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is not being thoughtful enough towards you!!! I don't think you mentioned how long you have been together!!! You might take that into consideration!!!! But, it doesn't matter how long you have been together, that still doesn't stop him from being thoughtful. Keep in mind, that if he is doing this now, what will it be like in another year, 2 years.... Take care.
2006-09-17 02:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 17 years old with a Fiancee, get a life girl!!!
2006-09-17 02:15:41 · answer #11 · answered by Raine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋