im 16 and jst found out that im pregnant and i dunno wat to do. i havent told any 1 cos i was reli upset bout it but i dont no wat to do. i dont agree with abortion but i dont want to be tied up with a baby so i cant do anything.any ideas?
2006-09-17 02:09:34 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
The first thing you need to so is to talk this over with someone, either a close family member or your doctor so that you can decide what is best for you to do, there are lots of options open to you from keeping the baby with the support of your family and friends and also the father and his family, adoption and even though like me you don't agree with abortion sometimes decisions have to be made such as could you actually go through the period of pregnancy and then give up your baby for adoption or can you raise a baby if you don't have any support cause that will be hard, whatever you decide to do must be what is best for you, good luck in whatever you decide to do and if you need to talk anytime message me
2006-09-17 02:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by leanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay calm honey. As your pregnancy develops, your thoughts on this matter may change. If they don't, find a good adoption agency...there are women everywhere who would love a child but are unable to have one themselves.
In a few months, you might want to have your baby after you have felt him/her move; it may create a bond between the two of you.
Tell your parents. Yes they will be shocked and maybe even disappointed and angry at you, but it will be temporary and they won't stop loving you for it. Think about what you want from your future too- there is no reason to think that you can't be successful just because you have a baby...in fact, it may even inspire you to be better than you could have imagined being before.
I wish you all the best and hope that whatever decision you make is the right one, and that your decisions are guided by facts, not fears.
Good luck!
2006-09-17 03:31:53 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have 9 months to decide what you want to do.
There is other options out there beside abortion.
Adoption is a good one.
And you could always have it put in a foster home until you got older, or later they can adopt the baby.
Or maybe the babies dad wants to keep it, or his family. Most do.
But until that time comes and you have the baby. Since you are under 18 you will more then likely be able to get medicare, which will pay for all of your and the babies bills up until 3 months after you have her, then the baby keeps it if you decide to keep her/him and you have to reapply.
You will also get WIC, which will help with some food, and later pays for your babies food if you decide to keep her/him.
If you decide to keep her, I'm sure your family would help you out alot, and you would probably get mountin heart which is a program that pays for someone or a daycare to babysit your kid. Sometimes they pay it all sometimes they dont.
I understand you are scared because you just found out, I was too, I found out i was pregnant 2 weeks after my 17 birthday. I was scared but then once it was out and everyone knew it was kind of exciting to know i was going to be a mom. Just because you have a baby though doesn't mean you are going to be tied down. People still go out and do stuff, family loves to babysit, etc.
Anyway just because you have a baby its not going to hold you back or tie you down life goes on there is a lot of help out there.
2006-09-17 02:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Abortion isn't always the best thing, I know from personal experience it seemed like the best thing at the time but nine months laters I still feel upset and guilty about it and around the due date i had nightmares about my baby that would have been. I'm not trying to freak you out but if at all possible you should let your family help with the baby otherwise consider adoption but that might change when you give birth and actually see your baby
2006-09-17 04:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by hop_ful23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same position at your age i had the baby he is now 8yrs old and i wouldn't change him for the world. I was too scared to tell my parents(dad was really strict) someone else told them and although they were disappointed they stood by me and i still went to work after school and the baby. I won't lie there are times when you wonder what you'd be doing if you never had a kid so young but there are worse things in the world. You'll still only be 21 when the child goes to school.
Talk to your parents or a friends parent at the end of the day its your decision and whatever you decide Good luck.
2006-09-18 01:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by tooti-frutti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, my best friend was in exactly the same position, she didn't know what to do or where to go for help, she couldn't go through with abortion and was terrified at the thought of abortion so she kept the baby.
Life's turned out great for her now, shes got a beautiful baby girl called Latifah who's 4 months old and my lush little god daughter hehe, but seek help from your friends and your family and the babies dad and you can even ring childline on 0800 1111 and they will offer you confidential support and will even tell you people who you can go to for further advise and help.
Don't go through it alone though, a problem shared if a problem halved, keep you head up and be strong and dint be pressured into anything you don't want to do.
Good luck with everything xxx
2006-09-17 07:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by RE789 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i feel for you i really do. 16 with a baby is very hard. unless you have very supportive parents? who will allow you to continue college etc... but there is a lot ov help also. but a baby at sixteen....... is life changing, you have all your life ahead ov u.
u could give the baby up but you will be left wondering where it is is it happy . if you have just found out , then it isn't even a baby it hasn't even started to develop. you need advice and fast.. an abortion may just be what you have to do. whats best for the future. www.efc.org.uk/Foryoungpeople/Factsaboutabortion. every one has the right to have there opinion, but it is your life and you only get 1 chance to live it. good luck in what you decide, and go right now and tell your parents or relative PLEASE X
2006-09-17 03:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the baby up for adoption. There are lots of couples who want a baby and can't have one and if you're really not ready and don't want a baby then adoption is a good choice. I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first baby and yes, it's scary but it's also managable. You just have to adjust to the change. I graduated college in 4 years, got married, kept my social life to a certain degree and I wouldn't change it for the world. My son is amazing!! Nothing like motherhood..but if you're not ready it can be a scary thing. You have a lot of thinking to do..but ultimatly you have to do what's best for you and your baby. Good luck to you!
2006-09-17 03:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there girlie, hope your ok?hard choice? if the truth be told no one wants to have an abortion! i could maybe imagine its not a nice thing to go through. adoption is an option but you must carry the baby full term and in this day and age its increasingly more difficult for a teenager who is pregnant to be accepted by society. this may be a very difficult option for you. im sure if you was to go to an abortion clinic they would help you decide the best option for you and they would provide support for you.i do hope you all the very best of luck and hope that you can get your head around the problem. take lots of care x
2006-09-17 03:34:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rach I really think you need help and I think the first consideration should be your parents or close family. I work with young people with substance misuse problems and this is such a dilemma for young women. You may want to consider having the baby and placing it for adoption. Your local Social services Dept will help you with the practical stuff.
Whatever you do don't despair there are people out there who could help you please please do not let pride get in the way of you doing what you need to
All the very best luck in the world Dirky
2006-09-17 07:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋