can a couple stay in love through a long period, say, long marriage?
2006-09-17 01:48:10 · 16 answers · asked by katrina_ponti 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I'm so sorry for those who do not believe in a love which endures. That means they have not found what I have found.
Does love ebb and flow in the first place? I think, no, for I believe love grows.
Those lucky enough to be completely given over to love -- in love, loving and full of love -- live a life together full of love that never ebbs, only grows.
So, beginning with true love, we move higher and higher in love, through all our time together.
I look forward to the day when my love and I have matured and aged, and still full of love, can also look back over a lifetime spent growing in love.
2006-09-17 04:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Bender 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I'm only answering this question because you have a great picture. and because you gave me best answer a while back. So my answer is this...... Love ebbs and flows in the beginning, and sometimes it will continue this way forever....however, when you both finally realize you can't live with the other person it hovers. Hopfully that hover period comes quickly and the ebbs and flows of each person's love towards the other person are in sync with each other. So right now.... I'd say after seeing your picture I'm pretty "ebbing" in love right now. Maybe our ebbs are in sync and we can flow together really soon. So how about it.... want to hover with me.
2006-09-18 20:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love can get stronger in time. It can also disappear. In a long relationship it cannot stay static just as the personalities cannot.
The longing lustful type thing must give way to the deep respectful
type long married couples have.
As for ebbing and flowing a roommate of mine once had a poster with the simple phrase "Four times up, Three times down". At the time I was too dense to realize it was a good philosophy for loves lasting.
2006-09-17 09:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I have been married for almost 10 years. Thou all the ebbs and flows we have been in love. Throu all the fights and making up we have been in love. Thou all the time apart, we have been in love. So I say let it Hover!!!
2006-09-17 23:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by Cali Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a question! In my own humble, totally uninformed opinion, I think this is possible. However, there are two necessary (and sufficient) conditions:
1) Both parties had to be in love at the beginning of the relationship.
2) Both parties must be vigilant in maintaining the connection between them by whatever means necessary.
As in nature, hovering in love is hard work! It is essentially expending tremendous effort to remain suspended in midair. Wonderful when achieved, but nearly impossible!
2006-09-17 09:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jehosephat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
great question.
Love does seem to ebb and flow ... I have no idea if one can, if i can, hover as you asked.
I am committed to a lifetime of being there with her, for Her, for us..... and there is some unknowns involved ....a whole lotta unknowns ...
What do you say is possible?
2006-09-17 09:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by zigzagidiot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some couples manage to love over a long period of marriage, but "in love" is a heightened excitement that few of us could endure over a long period.
2006-09-17 09:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Weeeellll - I have been married to the same lovely lady for over 36 years - and still going strong - so YES!@
2006-09-17 08:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by nswblue 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most certainly, why do you ask such a question?
If it is true love it can withstand a lot of things and be fine.
2006-09-17 08:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by Biker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because REAL and TRUE love is never ending
2006-09-17 08:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋