I'm not physically attracted to my boyfriend at all, I started dating him for his personality 3 years ago and he helped me thru a really bad break up, but I've been having sexual dreams about my guy friend lately and I find my self thinking of this other guy all the time, I would never act on these feels b/c I don't want to hurt my boyfriend. sometimes I just want to tell them how I feel but it would be a disaster since they are best friends
should i just keep quite? I was wondering if anyone has addivce for me
2006-09-17 00:35:28 · 12 answers · asked by 21/f/mn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The first thing you should ask yourself is, do you love your boyfriend? Forget the dream. It may mean something, it may not. You'll find that out later. But right now, the important thing is, your feelings towards your boyfriend.
Based on that, you'll know how to act.
2006-09-17 00:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what you have to remember is what this boyfriend did for you are the one your are physically attracted to probability don't even have a personality so i wouldn't tell him anything cause you do it's over with and if you are going to acted out this feelings then you need to leave him. Remember the grass isn't always greener on the other side just might be a field of poison ivy.
2006-09-17 07:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your problem is quite commen. this is what happens when you are not sexually attracted to the man u r with, u start to look at his friends and yours. if u want to stay with your boyfriend then try to spice up your love life, but if u really like this other guy, then you should tell him, even if they are best friends. he might feel the same and he might not. but as you said it will hurt your bf. so the only other thing to do is stay away from the other guy and after time you will stop thinking about him.
2006-09-17 07:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by trish p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard situation... but remember that your boyfriend is the one who can help you, who loves you and who respects you, so don't do something to bother him... sex is not as important as his feelings... you can tell your boyfriend that you are not attracted phisically to him, and wait to get the answer, if he cannot provide what you want, then you can break up with him... after that you should tell his friend that you are attracted to him... but not before telling your boyfriend... do not disturb his feelings, one day may someone do the same to you...think about that!
2006-09-17 08:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is VERY odd. every bit of that is true for me except i have been with my boy friend for 1 year. and if you dont wanna hurt him, then you love him. his best friend probably doesnt wanna hurt him either so he probably wont go for it. its hard to say what to do cause idk either. physical attraction is a big thing, with out it we get tempted by others. most of the time i just tell myself that im better off with my boyfriend, he keeps me safe and im loved and i love him. but othertimes i just wonder if maybe in another year or month or week, if im just fall apart and end up cheating on him. so i would like to know the answer to this also.
good luck
2006-09-17 08:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the key word is a dream. Wait it out and keep quiet. Telling all can only open a door you may rather keep closed later. We females think that we must tell all sometimes but for now I would stay silent.
2006-09-17 07:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel this way about your boyfriend, your not being fair to him keeping him around. Set him free to find someone who will truely love him in all ways. If you stay with him, your only going to ruin your life as well as his which isn't fair.
2006-09-17 07:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all the secrets will appear a fay u r just hurting both of them secretly and they will badly ignore u if they understand what is i ur mind i think honesty is the best thing even if destroy sn else be sureeeeeeeeeee
2006-09-17 07:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by N0t Known Never Ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. keep it to yourself. men don't want to hear that unless it's about a sexy woman. maybe you feel smothered and in your dreams express your freedom, but it could also mean your dissatisfied sexually... sorry but keep your man.he sounds like a keeper and the sex thing will work itself out.
2006-09-17 07:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you go out with some one 4 three years without being attracted to him?
LADY ,,,, WHAT IS THE F U C K ARE U SAYING ?
WORST STILL, U WANT TO HAVE IT WITH HIS BEST FRIEND .
BUT....U DON'T WANT TO HURT HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!
TO TELL U THE TRUTH ,I WOULD RATHER U HURT HIM THAN MAKING A FOOL OUT OF HIM.
2006-09-17 07:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋