2006-09-16 23:59:21 · 13 answers · asked by GOOCH 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't. Other people shouldn't.
2006-09-17 01:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by C K Platypus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be because they are scared. The abuser could of told them that if they leave that they get killed. If there is children then people stay for them. They don't want to break up a home and think that the abuser would never hurt the child. Then there is the we love each other and they said they would change. Most people who get abused have little to no self esteem and that gives the abuser power. The abuser also feeds on that. There are many reasons that a person can give for staying and the sad point is that they believe them.
2006-09-17 08:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abusers choose their victims wisely and break them down mentally first. Make them believe it's all their fault anyway. And because they think they can fix the abuser. Also, some people get a high from the make up sex. Make up sex is very intense for some. The victim will never leave until he/she decides to. No matter how much you try. They will never leave until they are ready.
2006-09-17 07:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by Zookeeper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different forms of abuse, verbal and physical. Most of the times we stay because we feel that we can change a person...WRONG I know this from personal experience. Another reason is money, abusers try to keep control of finances as to keep that person under their control. It makes them feel important, where probably elsewhere in their life they don't.
It's not as easy as people think to just leave.
2006-09-17 07:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by tdybear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The abuser sets out to cow the woman and prove to her she is worthless and he is doing her a favor by taking care of her and punishing her sins. Why did she marry him in the first place I have never understood.
2006-09-17 07:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need for punishment, feeling of unworthiness, feeling of always being wrong, some people feel guilty about anything that is wrong whether they did anything or not, desperate need for attention, any attention is better than none, severe lack of confidence in themselves that they could survive on their own, better the devil you know than the one you dont.
Also a feeling of sexiness I think borne by the feeling of needing to be touched and punishment is such an intimate thing in that it is brutish touch which can bite deep....bondage and masochistic play can be part of this.
2006-09-17 07:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by jay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They feel they can't find someone else, so might as well stay with this one. Bad one better than none.
2006-09-17 13:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because we are co-dependent. the best thing for me was to go to alanon. if you saw the show will and grace, where grace goes to a AA mtg. because of the friendship and the help. it is true. it does help
2006-09-17 07:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by shaz49801 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fear, low self-esteem, abuser is a known quantity, afraid anyone else might be worse, embarrassment, guilt(undeserved)
2006-09-17 07:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its usually due to the abusee's lack of respect for themselves and they get use to the abuse and see it as normal
2006-09-17 07:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by johnny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋