she is my best friend. we have been friends for 14 yrs and i dont want to lose her but i cannot accept her with this. please tell me what would u do if u were on my place
2006-09-16 23:40:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
be frank and have a serious conversation with her. tell her that you find it difficult to accept her with her relationship with that person whom you don't like.
2006-09-16 23:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by crazychori 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not your place to like or dislike him. If she is truly your best friend, be there for when things go wrong in the relationship. We don't always like the people our friends choose to be with, but you have to remember that you are not the one with that other person, your friend is. It's her choice. If you feel that you may loose the friendship over something like this, perhaps you need to re-evaluate just what kind of friend you are in the first place. Take a step back and think these issues over for a day or two, then ask your friend to talk these things over calmly. As long as you both understand each others feelings and acknowledge them, your friendship should be okay. Just remember, it's not your place to judge someone else and what they do, that's up to God.
2006-09-17 07:55:45 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have through this situation.i had a bf and my best friend never liked him.so take care of whatever u are doing otherwise it could spoil ur relationhip.i understand that u are very possessive n secured about ur best friend but she has 1 heart also n she has a right to love anyone.so talk to ur friend about this that u dont like the guy but this wont affect their friendship.n if the guy is really good then i hope u wont mindand u should speak to the guy also.becoz sometimes we have a different picture of a person in our mind but he is not actually like that.so talk to them n let this problem sorted out..take care
2006-09-17 06:46:43 · answer #3 · answered by nirmal k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i no that she is your best friend and everything however i do feel that she will stay with him even though u have spoken to her i feel that u should just leave her to her own devices however when and if the relationship goes pearshaped just b there for her because she will want a shoulder to cry on until then just cool off and leave them because just because she is your best friend you don't have to accept him
2006-09-17 07:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Hazel t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would leave it alone. Its her life and her decisions. to push your opinions on her, could result in the loss of your friendship. stay out of it and keep your thoughts to yourself. a good friend will always be there for her and if it doesnt work out, she will need her good friend.If you cannot tolerate this person, then put some space between you and that person. Also,look into yourself and ask yourself if this could be a jealousy thing on your part. If so, deal w/it.Shes your friend.
2006-09-17 07:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by debo3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax a true friend would not judge. Unless they're killing and eating folks don't worry about it. Be there for your friend if that's what you truely are.
2006-09-17 08:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by reghoney_apple_bottom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has her own life to lead, none of your business who she dates and doesn't matter if you like him or not , you can be her friend still ,you just have to accept this is who she chose to date
2006-09-17 08:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal with it or loose your friend you must be a girl so if she's your best friend you could actually be loosing a sister think about it
2006-09-17 06:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by murkymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mind your own business if you do not like it then dont hang around.
the last thing i would want is someone to be around me that is uncomfortable around me not matter what i do or say
2006-09-17 06:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
respect her choice. If ever she asks for your opinion or advise then that will be the right time to tell her how you feel.
2006-09-17 06:57:50 · answer #10 · answered by mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋