2006-09-16 23:12:18 · 16 answers · asked by tabbi_28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Walk when the marriage is over. It's over when either spouse violates a basic rule of marriage, and the violation is something the other can't or won't forgive or forget about.
2006-09-17 00:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of factors to consider, like whether you have children. Children suffer a lot of consequences because of divorce and none of them are good.
Love isn't about emotions. Any juvenile crush arouses emotions but that doesn't equate to love. Love is being able to stay when times are rough. Love is honoring your commitment even when he becomes someone who is "not the man I married". Love is proving you are a grown up and not ruining the lives of everyone in your family because you "want to move on with your life".
If he is abusing you or your children then that is a serious problem and one that needs to be addressed. If he won't go to counseling, if he won't quit hurting you or the kids, then you need to find someplace else to live. You have to protect yourself and your children.
If he's cheating and is unrepentant then that is grounds for divorce. You don't have to stand for a mate who is constantly cheating on you. However, if it was a one time only thing and he's truthfully begged for forgiveness and another chance, and you have children, then I would give serious consideration to trying to persevere in your marriage. It will be hard, and I really recommend counseling, but it can be done.
2006-09-16 23:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it no longer fits this description: an intimate or close union.
I knew it was time when I referred to my Ex Wife Sharmayne as Sharp Pain! I would awake by her side and she would start the day with another nasty remark.
Tips:
Max out every credit card you have by buying Gift certificates that can be returned easily.
Empty the bank accounts and open a new one for yourself at another bank.
See a lawyer and serve him with divorce proceedings.
Load up a truck and move somewhere he will not find you.
My wife did just those things as I separated from here thinking we would reconcile.
It is the golden rule, who has the gold rules. Get it and then negotiate.
She got stuck with the credit card debt as part of the settlement, and then returned the gift cards, and poof she had taken care of her side of the combined debt.
2006-09-16 23:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by treky1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, there is no easy answer to that, without knowing circumstances. have to ask, " how do I feel?" & " Is there anything left to fight for?"
every case is different, and only you will know, for sure, when the time is right. it is a scary step.
i could probably answer better, if i knew what was going on. best advice i can give, is to follow your heart. if it can be saved, and you want to, then do so. if not, you have to take care of yourself.
i wish you the very best, no matter which path you follow
staying in an unhappy marriage will only hurt you in the end.
2006-09-16 23:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by petch2401 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should walk away one step at a time. Don't just pack up and leave. First, seek counseling. Then separate for a time.
If there is abuse you can go quicker; but I would go to a shelter and talk with a Priest, Pastor, or something like that.
2006-09-17 00:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After years of feeling unloved even after reconciling over and over in your mind that nothing will change, the kids are older and you find he's stashing a cell phone in the doghouse.
2006-09-16 23:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Q: What's that useless piece of skin around a vagina called?
A: A woman!
why couldn't Helen Keller drive?
because she was a woman
what’s the difference between a woman and an mosquito?
when you slap a mosquito it stops sucking
how do you turn a dishwasher into a snow blower?
give the ***** a shovel.
2006-09-16 23:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you havent seen your husband for a coupla years
2006-09-16 23:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by frank m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the spouse is abusive towards you and the children, controlling your every move, you find out he/she is cheating on you, and if you fall out of love (the feelings are not there anymore)
2006-09-16 23:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by mole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you have to start posting questions on yahoo answers labeled," how u know if you should walk away from your marraige?" no sh*t huh?
2006-09-16 23:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by sodomy priest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋