2006-09-16 22:44:43 · 6 answers · asked by Rebooted 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have been there before. it is painful and so difficult. it is hard to forgive and forget. there are so many issues to deal with. will they do it again? how will i trust, self esteem hit an all time low, betrayal, its endless. it was a terrible experience but i stayed in it for too many years and we eventually.divorced. good decision because i met my 2nd husband and it feels like the first i have been inlove. i hope to God i never have to deal with that again. it is pure torture!!
2006-09-16 23:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by mercedes1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend very much on whether we had children or not. Since children are very seriously affected by divorce I don't think I would rush into it without considering a lot of factors.
Like, how long was the affair, how many lovers did the spouse have, is the spouse truly regretful (if he's been confronted), what are the chances he will continue to cheat? The other person who answered was right, you need to go to counseling to sort all this out. If you've had it out with your spouse the both of you need to go. If you haven't talked about it yet, you need to go so you can find out the best way to bring it up without having a huge blowout.
Divorce is a really serious step and, if you have children, you have to put them first. However, if the spouse is a constant cheater and you find that he won't stop than you don't need that grief either (not to mention possible diseases).
2006-09-17 06:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A complete loss of self respect, mixed with utter desperation and no hope for the future?
No, seriously, too much depends on other factors that are too numerous to list all of, but just as food for thought I will name a few:
How long ago was this? What was the nature of our relationship at the time (IE, were we fighting, on a break [the old Ross Gellar excuse])? had she mistakenly thought I had been unfaithful to her? has she changed if this happened some time ago and I am just now finding out?
All of these are possible factors, but in general I would probably have to say my opening statement probably applies best.
2006-09-17 05:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Found out he was unfaithful with my own eyes. I stayed because I believe in "marriage" and I believe that my children deserve a chance to have both their parents fight for them to be happy. No child wants to go through a divorce, separating from one parent, choosing to stay or not to stay with one parent. I think it was just not fair to them. He was apologetic for he had done, swore to never do it again, begged that we give our marriage another try, and he also told me if it would make me feel better that I could go and do the same (he just wouldn't want to know about it) Go figure!
2006-09-17 05:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just loving the person. Hoping someday he will turn back and change when he sees what all I gave up for him. Just trying till the very end.
2006-09-17 06:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of support,talk to someone you know really well
2006-09-17 05:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by lesuiremike 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋