he cheated me , i forgive him,now he said he loves another woman who before that he said to me he loves her as a sister or a mother,he loves me only because my beauty and for sex . can i trust him again, he had lied to many many times now everything is out. i want to finish with him, get hin out of my mind. i cant because i love him so much, just confused dont know wat to do
2006-09-16 22:36:16 · 31 answers · asked by sweet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you know the answer to this one, you just don't want it to be true. But he lied to you several times... how are you ever going to be able to trust him again?
Yes, its going to be painful without him... for a while at least. But you will hopefully meet someone else, someone who will be loyal and true to you, someone who will respect you as a person, someone who will really and truly value you for who you are. Someone you can spend your life with and will bring you happiness instead of the hurt and confusion and pain that you are feeling right now.
BUT- in order for you to achieve all this, you first have to get out of the relationship you are in. Because let's face it, the kind of person I just described isn't going to want to be "the other guy" in the exact same way that whomever your boyfriend cheated on you with is with you. So get out and move on with your life, because the sooner you can do that, the sooner you can find happiness.
2006-09-16 22:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to live life a little more and without him. He did you wrong and he kept you on the "sidelines" as a safety net. Things didn't work out with other girl the way he would have liked and is using the love you have for him to his advantage so that he doesn't have to be alone or at least until he finds another victim again. Open your eyes, and look. There is a man out there who is ready to give you the respect and the love you are wasting this boy, go and find him you deserve that much.
2006-09-16 22:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't bear his betrayal then you can't bear him. He lied and cheated repeatedly. He doesn't deserve you. It takes time to get the guy you love out of your mind. In fact, you'll never completely get the guy you once loved out of your mind. But, you can decide to move on the best you can. I would get involved in a hobby, church group, get lost in work/school etc. You need something to pacify your time and thoughts. Plus, you'll meet new people and maybe a new guy. And you'll probably discover some new things about yourself along the way. Embrace the new you and let him go. You can do it! :)
2006-09-16 22:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by justjerra_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer this simple question truthfully, then you'll know what to do. Does he love you if he knowingly does stuff that he knows would hurt you? It's the equivalent of asking if your boyfrined gave you a shot of ammonia to drink does he love you? The answer is NO! So don't give him another chance he'll just keep uising you and hurting you knowing that you'll just come back for more.
2006-09-16 22:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by zekemilli4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid off him , sounds like a number one loser to me ! You deserve better than that , you will meet someone who will love you 110% and will never hurt you , he`s out there somewhere , you just need to dump the rotter you have then start looking for him ....
You deserve to be happy , do yourself a favour .
Good luck
2006-09-16 23:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget the lying rat, theres a saying a leopard never changes its spots! hold ur head up high, think of the crap he will put the other woman throughin the near future, and laugh ur socks off! go find a real man not a user. good luck.
2006-09-17 03:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by SHAR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like you can't becos you're overwhelmed with hurt, loss and pain right now. BUT YOU MUST LEAVE HIM.
How dare he say he only loves you for sex and your looks. You MUST not take that kinda disgusting crap from him!
You weren't created to be treated this way - don't let him.
You WILL find better.
2006-09-16 22:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's decimated your self confidence and that is why you still love him. You seem tohave this bizarre idea that you can't get anything better. Trust me, you can.
Do yourself a big favour and ditch him! Learn to love yourself more and you'll get over it. Moving on is the best revenge.
2006-09-17 04:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by StolenAnjel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont deserve to be treated like that, and you yourself know it, ditch him, you can do it!
Their are tonnes of guys out their that will love you for more than your appearance and the pleasure you provide--seems to me as though he is seeing you more of a sex object and he doesn't respect you. Get over that dog and find a real man!
GO GIRL!
2006-09-16 22:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how you feel! love is something you cant turn off, so sometimes we have to make heart decsions with our mind, and the fact is he is a lousy cheat, and you deserve someone to treat you like a queen, life is too short and stress and depression makes it shorter.
2006-09-16 22:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋