me and my boyfriend of over a year are really open but he is always on the computer or playing video games, and when i get off work he always wants to play with his brother or watch movies, and all i want is to spend time with him or go to sleep. it seems like all we do lately is argue over little things. and i think maybe i am over reacting to his not wanting to spend time with me is this my fault or am i right he should be considerate of me and spend some time with me and not worship the ps2 or comp.!!???
2006-09-16 22:05:32 · 15 answers · asked by tayler_07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes..he has a job, and when he gets off i totally listen to his day or just chill with him, but like today he didnt even notice i came home, he was to busy playin the ps2 with his brother
2006-09-16 22:15:54 · update #1
You are going to MAKE him sit down and tell him EVERYTHING you are feeling. If he doesn't want to make it better and respect your feelings then it isn't worth it. Sure, don't ban him from playing video cames forever...but he has to realise YOU are important too and he CAN balance everything. If he doesn't want to do this, chuck him out. Or, if has got to the point where you could sit on his lap naked and he doesn't respond, get rid of him. You deserve much better.
2006-09-16 22:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Girl Goes Back To The Future 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are right. He needs to be a little more respectful and spend some time with the both of you doing or "playing" a game together. Maybe he wants to break it off and figures if he ignores you he won't have to do the dirty work and actually be mature enough to talk to you and tell you that maybe he doesn't feel the same way. You need to concentrate on yourself, make yourself happy and spend time with YOU. Forget him and if he truly does love you he will come find you, apologize and realize you have been the best thing in his life and he made a really terrible mistake. If he doesn't follow you, or apologize then you really need to move on sweetie! Find the respect,love and attention that you want and that you deserve! Good luck to you and stay strong.
2006-09-16 22:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend keeps you as his girlfriend because he would look like a dork if he was single.
what makes you think he has any idea about romance, consideration for your feelings, or even about how to give sexual pleasure?
you are an important accessory, but a background one.
ok, maybe I am being too harsh but I can't understand why he isn't responding to your hints.
perhaps chilling with you really is boring, and you both need to find a common interest.
for myself, when I get home from work the last thing I would want to do is relate my day piece by piece to my partner. hey, the day has gone and it's only a job. what's the point of a post mortem on something I resent having to give time to in the first place? if that's all you've got going on your head I can see why he prefers to do something else.
I think you need to practise your conversation skills. There's a lot more to life than "how are you?" and "how was your day?"
2006-09-16 22:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What u are having is a initial fear which pushes u down , nobody gets a perfect partner in life which can be of 100% understanding if u had a few mr.wrongs in ur life does'nt mean u won't Mr.Right , but one this is be calm and just see to it u are getting the right guy if u hurry up u may sure end up with many wrong people and Distress life . Why don't u try breaking Ice with the person u have crush with , who knows he could be ur Right guy too.
2016-03-27 04:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you are over reacting.
What I would do in a case like this is to have an honest talk with him. This is immature. If he loves you, he will at least sit down, tv off, alone you and him and tell him all you said here. Don't accuse him. Just say what you are feeling when he does these things. Explain that all you want is quality time with him. If he does not understand and tries to make you feel bad, he's not worth your energy. There are plenty of guys who will want to treat you good and spend their time with you.
Good luck!
2006-09-16 22:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like there is something else going on ... the "video game" number is something I've seen as a familiar trick to avoid things going on in your life that you may not want to think about all the time. You need to discuss this with him ... He may be sad or upset about something.
2006-09-17 03:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by actresscye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are right sweetie! he can do all that sh!t while you are at work (i hope he has a job too) but when you come home he should give you attention! you need to tell him how you feel, cause if he dont change you will feel empty and void of attention making you vunerable for a real man like me to take you away! :)
2006-09-16 22:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to him. Tell him that it hurts you that he isn't spending enough time with you and that you feel neglected. ask him to put away the games and stuff and play some games with you, if you know what I mean ;-) . Best of luck to you and yours.
2006-09-16 22:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by zekemilli4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, you are not overreacting, what's the point of being in a relationship if you don't have time for that person? if he really cares about you he should understand that you need to spend more time together. tell him if he can't, the you'll find someone who can!
2006-09-16 22:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by Cool Breeze 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's still a child. There are plenty of men out there who ARE mature who would no doubt be more inclined to be appreciative.
2006-09-16 22:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋