I had a brief fling with this guy but i decided to call it off cos i felt like we were more friends than lovers and we'd never be anything else. I didnt have any feelings for him apart from friendship. We agreed to stay friends and see each other regularly, go to local once a week and speak regularly.
I've moved on and now in a very happy relationship.
I was out with my mates last night and he was there and as i'm friends with his mates, i sat and had laugh with them all.
He's just text me and told me that he cried when he got home last night cos he still loves me!!!
He's tried making me jealous by saying he's had sex with an ex last week and then says he has a crush on someone else but it dont work cos i'm no longer interested in him that way!
What do i do???????
2006-09-16 22:01:36 · 18 answers · asked by Mizz Julie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You've got to tell him that you're in relationship now and that you're happy. If he truly cares about you he'll respect what you want and not push his own agenda. Also, you should tell him that you think it is great that he has a crush on someone else and that she is a lucky girl and that you hope that they'll be very happy together! You have to be clear and firm. Don't let him make you feel guilty because you don't return his feelings. The heart wants what the heart wants and sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't. He just has to learn to accept that it isn't going to be the way he wants with you and should look for someone who is available.
2006-09-16 22:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by Kami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first be glad that you didn't get involved more deeply with this loser if that's how he behaves. If you're friends then you need to set him straight asap. Don't meet him to tell him as this will confuse him,ring him and have a direct conversation Following this be the same friendly way you always were with him.
IF you think you might have feelings for him be sure its not just the additional flattery that is getting you & remember the way he's trying to make you jealous is sad,sad,weak and the behaviour of a boy not a man,now ask yourself,would you really want something deeper with a guy who thinks this way?
2006-09-16 22:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what sicko's those top 2 are! oh well, WOW! thats sweet, but the timing SUCKS like electrolux! (ok, lets keep clear of the sucking...)
well, what would i do?? if i'm in a happy relationship, and this dude now decides that *because you're no longer available* you are now more desirable than ever, i'd say he wants his bottom wiped.
I was in a relationship for 7 years where this guy, i left him several times cause he wouldnt get engaged or move forward in the relationship. (we turned out to be bestest of friends, bless him (he's now passed away *really sad frown*) but, he used to really come after me only when i left him and tried to be with other guys, but when i turned back to him, the yo-yo thing would be the order of the day.
Stick with your boyfriend, if things work out, then stay friends with the guy you decided to stay friends with. Dont toy with peoples feelings cause when you do, there is an unspoken / unwritten law in this life, that what you do to others usually comes back to you. in short, dont hurt your current boyfriend because your "friend" decided he needs his pacifier back.
2006-09-16 22:11:45 · answer #3 · answered by Wisdom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you get the chance impress upon him again that you have moved on and so should he. Let him know that you are being honest and up front and you are happy with your present relationship. You have always treated him with respect and you would like for him to respect your decision. You would like to remain friends but cannot if he chose to act this way.
Make it final and try to avoid any close contact for a while.
2006-09-16 22:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will need to tell him you are flattered but you are in a relationship and very happy , say sorry . After this you have to cut ties with him once and for all or he won`t move on . There is a very fine line between friendship and relationship and its being compromised in this situation..
2006-09-16 23:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay well clear. If you get involved with a male friend it only causes trouble, believe me. And if you give them the slightest bit of hope that you might be interested in having a relationship with them, it's worse.
Just sit him down and tell him straight that you can't offer him what he wants, and if he doesn't stop, warm him that your friendship is on the line. Be gentle, it will hurt him a lot.
2006-09-16 22:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Roxie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him, he's holding out for some sort of relationship with you and if it's not there, it's not there. At least by telling him you're not interested you are being honest and allowing him no false hope. He will eventually move on with his life, he just needs time and a firm answer.
2006-09-16 22:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by Dancing Queen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him firmly that you are not interested in him in that way.
And if he is still annoying you, tell your new boyfriend!
Don't talk to him!
It is all just words, boys are all the same when they are in a gangs, he is just saying this to see what your action will be.
Don't show him, go out with your new bloke when he is going to be in the same place as you. And give your new boyfriend lots of cuddles and kisses in front of him.
Hopefully he will get the message.
Good luck!
2006-09-16 22:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by samleigh40@btinternet.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yust tell him the truth.That you only like him as a friend And that you don`t love him.please go and stay somewhere else and be truthful to yourself.you`ll be better off by telling the truth
2006-09-17 00:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by Trish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couldn't you see this was gonna happen??
Blokes can never say they want to stay friends after a relationship is over...and mean it!
We all have to learn to hard way bout something I suppose.
2006-09-16 23:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by Bodieann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋