I had an abortion a year and a half ago when i was 21. i loved my boyfriend (the baby's father) very much, but i was young and i barely even had a job. There was no way I could tell my parents I was pregnant either. They hated my bf and they're very religious. I regretted doing it right when I woke up from surgery. I got really angry and depressed and it ruined my relationship w/ my boyfriend. He left me shortly after. He wants nothing to do with me, and I think about him and the baby everyday. I miss them both.
I was forced to suppress my feelings though because he didn't want to talk about it. He just acted like it never happened. And if I ever got sad about seeing a baby or baby clothes etc. he would call me crazy. I wasn't allowed to be sad or cry. To him it was such a normal thing because all the women he knows have had at least 2 abortions and they're totally okay with it. So he figured it was no big deal, and I was weird to be upset.
I wish more than anything that I could go back to that day and change what I did. It's almost too much to bear. I can't stop crying, and I'm so scared. I want God to forgive me. I've prayed for forgiveness everyday since then. I don't have anyone to talk to. I don't have any friends and my parents don't know. I just cry and talk to my puppy about it. and Jesus too. I'm so sad.
2006-09-16 21:59:01 · 16 answers · asked by bellavita8383 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It's quite normal to feel as distressed as you do. Cry. Try to talk to other women who have been in a similar situation. The boyfriend wasn't good enough for you and you're better off without him. Time and new love will help. Don't beat yourself up - you did what you believed best in difficult circumstances.
If they're there, God and Jesus love you and forgave you long ago. You aren't a bad person.
2006-09-16 22:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jesus knows youre sorry and he forgives you.... I'm going to tell you the truth.. the regret isn't going anywhere all you can do is push the haunting memories a side and pray.
You'll be OK. Cry it out until you cannot cry anymore. Jesus forgives you. Now forgive yourself.
You dont need to live like this.. it was a mistake and it will never happen again OK. Please love yourself enough to forgive yourself. Look at the dude you mentioned... the one responsible for all this... him... . think about the awful life you'd have if you had a family with him. He didn't love you or the situation. He is a heartless man who didn't care one bit. Think about it. You are better off without him. He's a coward and you know it. You've given yourself .. your life .... a chance to have a life with the right man...
switch things around... please live in peace...
2006-09-16 22:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
seemes to me you have had a rought time ,well as for the boy friend ,not to comfort you after a thing like this ,you are better off with out him and as for the kid it had a lucky escape from a very uncareing father,you cant keep beating urself up it was something you had to do and you must move on ,there will be a time when things are right and never give up a child because of work or oney its surprising how you will cope when you have to ,it was a misstake and we all make them ,move on with ur life and forget him ,he wasnt worth it anyway or he would have been there for you both,and supported you both too ,sounds to me he didnt really want either of you ,find a nice man and try again ,but never close ur parents out they will love you no matter what you do ,,,they love you ,,,and they understand more than you think ,,,they would have been there for you even when he wasnt ,i really think you should have faith in them and tell them what you did they can help you through this and they will respect you for being trusting of you ,even if they show shock to start with ,if hey love you they will forgive you ,and i know they will in their hearts ,,,,good luck.,
2006-09-16 22:09:24 · answer #3 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my heart goes out to you...i had an abortion 2 years ago i was 23 and already had 3 children i was divorced and hadn't been with my bf long enough to even think about wanting a child with him!...first thing stop beating yourself up about it..your totally right to be feeling sad and to grieve but don't regret it...its too late for that... its done you did the best thing for yourself and anyone else!...as for god forgiving you i can't answer that....you know and 'god' knows you did what you had to do..you didn't have any other choice...so stop worrying...and make sure when you meet someone new you strap it up before you slap it up....birth control doesn't always work so if you worry don't have sex until you are with 'the' man..or are married...you are in my prayers tonight keep safe and smile
2006-09-16 23:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good news!!! You dont have to ask God's forgiveness on a daily basis because of what you did he has already forgiven you. Now I know still guilty feelings are there you can hoped that someday you would meet with your baby but you can only do that if you would ask Jesus to be your personal saviour accpet him in your heart & life then your sure that you would meet your baby someday. DOnt cry now we cant undo what we have done we can only hoped that tomorrow would bring something new & to hope for. God bless you...
2006-09-16 22:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by Dave B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God will forgive you if you ask him to. He is good like that. You have obviously realised what a huge mistake you made and are truly sorry for it.
As for your ex-boyfriend, his lack of empathy makes him sound like he is not the one for you.
Try and accept the peace that God is offering you and go out and make amends by doing the right thing with the right guy. Have faith in Gods ability to love you no matter how much of a mistake you made.
2006-09-16 22:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by kllr.queen 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to get into counseling. You need to grieve for your loss and apparently your boyfriend doesn't or didn't get that. God will and already has forgiven you. You now need to forgive yourself. You can't go back to that day. All you can do now is move on with your life, make better choices so that you're never in that predicament again.
2006-09-16 22:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cant change the past and you dont want to live the rest of your life regretting this decision. I would suggest you talk to a counsellor.
You are right to feel upset but you cant change what you have done and no amount of crying will either.
2006-09-16 22:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by Boo Boo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel for u.. i did the same 3yrs ago cos i was 16 n on drugs n wasnt in right frame of mind to bring up a child, now im 19 n wounder wot if etc.. go to ur doctor n tell them how u feel cos it aint good feeling like this, u gotta move on..
2006-09-16 22:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How could you kill something its the same as going into a baby crib and stabbing the baby I understand womens rights and everything but why didnt you go through with it and giving it to the agency Theres things that stop babies from getting in you you know why let it live in you then kill it confess (if they do that at your church) and pray maybe you shouldve gone into a nursery just to realize what desision you were making
2006-09-20 00:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by Someone 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋