He is not web page designer. Although he has created free home page before. His friend who treat his wife like a slave and sends porno sites to my husband had suggested to him that they should create a website for people to meet and date. I have secretly been checking his e-mails that's how I know. I know its wrong to check his e-mails but he allowed me once and I saw inappropriate stuff ever since i have been checking his e-mails once in a while. But now I almost do nt even want to check it anymore because it upsets me. I pray every night that his friend would just leave us alone but I guess its not that simple. I can't trust him because he is the master of liers. I'm thinking because he is turning 40 very soon and that he is afraid of it or something. I don't realy know and I can't talk to my friends because the last time I tried it didn't work. Also, I do not have any family around me or in this stae and even if they were I just can't tell because I do not want worry anyone. pls hlp
2006-09-16 21:25:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I can only tell u that should he proceed with this plan of theirs, he's headed in the wrong direction. Don't be afraid to tell him u don't approve of it. Don't bother talking to his friends. Talk to him as this is an issue between the two of u. Stand up for yourself and let it be known that u will, under no circumstances, stand for this... as married men shouldn't be acting as though they are single.
2006-09-16 21:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't blame it on his friend. Women always blame it on a guys friend and try to break up the friendship or drive the other friend away. This is your husband's doing. First of all most guys look at pornography. They won't all admit to it but they look at porn. It's a normal thing to want to look at porn. Many women look at porn also. Making a dating website is very far from cheating on you. You can actually make money by having a dating website where people pay to join. It's a really good business and it sounds like your husband may want to make some money and/or learn how to create web pages. To me it sounds like you are a little jealous that your husband has a good friend and also that he looks at porn. Neither of these means that he is cheating. You are worrying too much. You should turn the tables on your husband and one night when you are feeling sexy tell him you want to watch a porn movie with him and have sex. Tell him to pick a semi-normal porn. He will love you for it and I guarantee your sex life will improve and he will focus on you more. And he may even competely forget about his friend.
2006-09-16 21:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by Trevor B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woopwoop, Maury show! No, I'm just kidding you. Are you serious? 11 years and this man is signing on sites like that as divorced as widowed? Does your friends know about this? Confront him with other people as it will act as witness and pressure. Do you have the feeling that he is, if not, already cheating on you with other women? Does he show the signs, high amount of perfume, coming home late at night (12am +), stopped paying attention to you unless it's an emergency, possession of women's clothing that is not yours, text messages, etc. If he says your marriage is through, kick his *** to the curb! You deserve WAY, WAY better than this man, even after 11 years of marriage. If you find the right man, you can go WAY BEYOND 11 years! :)
2016-03-27 04:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you say that you pray, I take it you are a religious woman. Ask God for guidance; and then do what is best for you (and your child/children if you have any).
If a man starts behaving like this, I would ask him to get out of the social sphere he is and to focus on being a husband, father and productive man in this world. I would find ways to get our faith more active within the home, and to involve us more in community activities.
If I were to meet any violence along the way, or if he is simply decided on spending his energy on sleeping around and being with untrustworthy men...then I would leave him.
2006-09-16 21:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by ms_moonlight1977 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kiddo, it is pretty evident what it means!
You can't blame the friend, that's a cop out! If your husband is able to get married and hold down a job, he can make his own choice's!
I would venture to say you are being played for a fool! And at some point you will be looking at a divorce!
2006-09-16 21:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this isn't good talk to your husband and tell him that his friend is not the type of man he should aspire to be hang around because of guilty by association. Also make some acceptable and non acceptable rules and ask him to go to counseling with you as a couple.
2006-09-16 21:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's after more of other people and you need to do something about it, no matter how hard it is.
you two aren't very trusting of each other and this indicates more problems to come.
either confront him and get it all out in the open now, or suffer worse later on.
try and get in with a group of any type, sporting, hobbie, social, whatever and they'll offer you some support.
all the best.
2006-09-16 21:32:34 · answer #7 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A married person who spends a bunch of time on ANY dating site is cheating. Perhaps not physically, but they are looking and at least considering others.
2006-09-17 00:35:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him and let him know that you know what he is doing. Tell him you want it to stop and that you both need to go to counseling if your ever going to trust him again. If he doesn't agree then it's time to dump him and move on with your life you deserve better then that. Good Luck
2006-09-17 02:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Master of liars? And you're checking his email?
Why is him creating a "Dating web site" anything bad anyway? Would you be as upset if he was creating a "Corvette web site?" Are you just worried he's going to create this site to find someone to leave you for?
Stop being so paranoid and mistrustful and maybe he won't feel like you're pushing him away with your hostility...
2006-09-16 21:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by COlin W 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋