I don't know what to do first he acts like we are together then he turns around and says oh by the way we are just friends and thats it then turns around and tells me he seeing somebody else He calls me all the time and acts like he is so worried about me.
I know what I want but i don't think he does should I remain friends with him or what or tell him how I really feel ? Help Me
2006-09-16 21:13:39 · 20 answers · asked by babygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You still care deeply for him and it will take time for your heart to heal. You must start now however. You cannot give yourself to someone who does not want you. You must love yourself. If he were half a man he would feel your pain and take his jerk a*s completely out of your life. I know its hard but consider yourself blessed. He does not deserve you.
He is definitely not your friend. Why do you need him as a friend anyway? Push him completely out of your life and shut down the "so called" friendship. He is being manipulative and cruel by using you and taking advantage of your feelings for him.
Sit down and define some new goals for yourself. Find a good book, a new hobby or something positive to help occupy your mind. Take it one day at a time. Whenever your thoughts drift toward him, divert your mind to something more pleasant.
You will get over him. In the mean time Carry your head high and regain your dignity and self respect. Eventually you will become whole again and you will be ready for your true prince charming.
2006-09-16 21:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still have feelings for him because he's been a part of your life. Try to get rid of him for some time then think things over. Your absence might make him realize who you are in his life, and so do you. Sooner or later, you will know his true intentions to you. If you remain friends with him, it'll hurt you more. Telling you that you are just friends is like reminding you that don't make assumptions about how he treats you. Just try not to be so available to him.
2006-09-17 04:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by misscoyote 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I'd remain friends and when he starts bringing up stuff about how he likes you , or acts like you two are together, I'd put up a stand and let him know it's a friend only relationship. He's doing this because he knows he can and because you let him. Maybe he doesn't even realize that's what he's doing, but it it. I don't think it'd even be a good idea to stay friends with him, but I know how women are about the men they care about and I know that you will probably try to have some contact with him regardless.
2006-09-17 04:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, I am in this exact situation. Trust me, he knows exactly what he wants. He is doing what men do, trying to have their cake and eat it too. To his credit he's at least trying to be a little up front with it, BUT what he's saying is he does not want an exclusive relationship with you. He wants to have you AND he wants to have whoever else he's seeing and probably some other chicks too. PLEASE do not be fooled, his calls showing "concern about you" are only to keep you from writing him off completely, so when he's ready to come back around, you will let him right back in (to your heart, bed, house and wallet too if you're willing).
Like I said, I'm in this situation right now, and the hard part is. You really need to let him go, which means cutting all ties. His friendship is not worth it when what you really want is his love and commitment. He will not commit to you, and he will abuse your love for him. I know it's hard and you want to believe he will come around, but he's not going to. What he's doing is a sign of his selfishness and lack of commitment to you. Be strong. Let him go...
2006-09-17 04:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lady G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are normal, although misplaced. You still have feelings for him only because it's human nature to want what you can not have and to try to retain someone after rejection.
I promise you if you go on with your life, and let this loser go, you will be happier in the long run. Life is too short to waste on someone you're unhappy with.
2006-09-17 04:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's one of the Awefullest feelings in the world! I can sympathize with you,Dear. You have GOT to find the strength within You to tell him. Do it! that is the ONLY way you will feel some relief. Bless You!
2006-09-17 04:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by trisha 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what hes trying to do is have you on the side. i dont want to come out so harshly but this is typical behaviour. he doesnt want to be with you but he just wants to have you there at the side. hes an attention seeker. i liked a guy like that too. he would make me believe hed break up with his gf but never did. soon i realised he just liked the attention and thats why he wanted me there. it took me so long to get over him because i hadnt met anyone new and didnt want to. but then someone came along and i slowly started getting over him. he has something for me and i know i have something for him too but now i dont pay as much attention to him as i used to.
its complicated but you have to get over him. easiest is by finding someone new. it doesnt mean he doesnt like, hes attracted to u, but hes an idiot, doesnt know what he wants...
2006-09-17 04:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by carcaterra 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
funny you should mention that,We are all insecure.If you feel secure with him and you know what 2 expect,or have negotiated your expectations and he agrees,he gets 1 chance.thats it .period the end,we all have got to take responsibility for ourselves,It really is not working being dispobal ,but women HAVE choices now.That is the way it is suppose to be,we are not property.God bless
2006-09-17 04:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by eternallygrateful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're only human.
But you're not seeing the big picture here. He doesn't know what he wants. Why waste your time? It sounds like he wants his freedom, but can't imagine you going off and doing the same thing. Screw iiitt!!!
2006-09-17 04:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by xxGlamROCK 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it might be hard but try and put your relationship in the just friends basket, and see what time brings, by being just friends with him it will protect you from being used and he may realise that your the one for him if he thinks he cant have you,
2006-09-17 04:20:28 · answer #10 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋