My husband( 40yrs) who I(29yrs) have been married to has betrayed me so many times. I feel i'm overreacting because he is not having an affair (at least I don't think he does) . Well, once I had to check his e-mail to get a friend's number and i saw he is writing to one of our female friends(46yrs) in a odd way. He ends it by writing " luv" and "his name". I was shocked when i saw it and asked him why and then he said he doesn't mean it and she writes it so he write it too and he said he wouldn't write'luv' next time. I thought I would try to forget it but i couldn't and the e-mails he has been writing to her is not ok considering she is married and other stuff.I know she had and always calls him and e-mailed him but I didn't think he would write 'luv' even though she did. We have other issues but i'm not given enough space. he is also secretly creating a 'dating' website with his friend. I love him and he acts like he does too. We have 2 kids too. Am I overreacting?
2006-09-16 20:49:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call him on this tell him it's not acceptable for your husband to be on any dating site or secretly emailing a woman with love it a sentence tell him to behave or you will be telling somebody else you love em.
2006-09-16 20:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first the word "luv". The word by itself means nothing, especially if this is a friend he's known for quite sometime. What u should be concerned with is his intentions for writing her. Why does he write her so often? Does he know his correspondence with her bother u? These are the things u should be addressing and if you've made it known that his emails to her back and forth is not okay, then he should respect that and cease talking to her immediately. I wouldn't put too much stock on his use of the word "luv" as it doesn't sound like he means anything by it, unless the contents of his emails to her says otherwise.
2006-09-16 21:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok here's the thing if you husband starts to write "love" then you can start to worry. Everyone knows that if you write "luv" it doesnt mean anything its just something you can end an email with. But i can understand that you wld be a little suspicious of you husband because he has cheated before but be careful not to read to much into every little thing coz that can cause a lot more problems in your marriage
2006-09-16 21:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just writing luv at the end of emails in itself does not necessarily mean anything. Its just like saying sincerely or similar closing. His other actions though...and the pass indiscretions will always give you cause for concern. There is just no way you can trust him.
Face it...he cannot be trusted. Yet you are still with him. That being the case you have to find a way to live with it. You simply cannot wear yourself out (mentally or emotionally) on his behavior. You owe yourself better.
Either leave him or find a way to cope. You and you alone are responsible for your well being and happiness. To thine own self be true.
2006-09-16 21:08:55 · answer #4 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"luv" is another way of saying "Your friend" or "your's truly. Yeah you're WAY overreacting at least on this "luv" thing...actually it's more of a pubescent thing. I suggest you and he sit down and talk about your issues in a non confrontational way, if you can't without a mediator I suggest family counseling, you seem to be wanting to find something going on...there's an old saying "Be careful what you wish for...you may just get it".
2006-09-16 21:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has already betrayed you so many times, and he is secretly (apparently not, though) creating a dating website, and he has an on-going e-mail/phone relationship with a female friend? Your husband seems to have commitment issues. If you don't mind, let it ride, just know that you are enabling his immature behavior by ignoring it.
2006-09-16 20:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have one male friend who I've known for over 20 years and he writes luv Graham on every email and when he is signing out of IM.
2006-09-16 20:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more worried if he wrote 'love,' 'Luv' seems casual, but if he's the type to have betrayed you many times already, perhaps he is doing some flirting or more. Sorry.
2006-09-16 21:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lea A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll keep it simple...No they don't and if so they shouldn't, you need to really ask yourself a few questions that only you can answer, don't mean to be harsh, but from what you've wrote....I'd get out of that, or at least put a stop to that kind of behavior from my spouse. You deserve better than that. Look at what you wrote "he has BETRAYED me Soooo many times"???
2006-09-16 21:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Smoky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really dpends on how well they know each other to be honest but even so if ur hubby knows that u are un comfortable with it then he shud find another way to end his email with that person assuming of course that nothing is going on
2006-09-16 20:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by Phantom Viper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋