Do you guys feel that a person can know too much? That it actually turns most people off rather than on and makes it harder to make friends and get dates? I know the classic nerd story, but I don't know how close to reality that is. I'm sure most of you know what I'm talking about. Seriously, let's say that you study all religions and have read almost all religious texts and are therefore moderately to well versed in them, like learning new words and terminology (dictionary or whatever...I've read it), enjoy math and physics and so on. Does this have more of a negative affect on socializing than positive?
2006-09-16 20:46:38 · 9 answers · asked by magicka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Here is an interesting essay on the subject of nerds, popularity, high school, life, etc.
2006-09-16 20:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by monkey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People view knowledgeable person in two lights - show-off or nerds. If a nerd keeps on repeating the same facts over and over again, without end, of course it will negatively affect his social life. And if he always forces other people to accept the facts, he can kiss his social life goodbye.
Then there are nerds who don't look like nerds! I know, I met some. They dress decently, none of those huge glasses and badly matched clothes, and yet these people can grind out a lot of terminology some even I can't begin to comprehend.
It really depends on the person who owns the brains. If he knows how to play his cards well, he can survive the fickle art of socializing. If not... well... try again.
2006-09-17 04:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by jarod_jared 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little bit negative. It's hard to find something interesting to talk about. For example, I go to a state college that doesn't have a good academic reputation, but it has my major and is close to my home so I save a lot of money. I find it very difficult to have a fun conversation with someone. Most talk involves tv, celebrities, fashion, etc. It gets boring pretty quick. So I spend most of my time studying. It gets lonely and I guess the only way to meet smarter ppl is to ask my smarter friends in other schools. Good luck finding a date. Ask your friends about ppl they know that are available. Find another nerd. Go to the library and browse the (people in the) math and physics section. Btw, this is something common that goes around campus:
1) Studying
2) Sleeping
3) Social life
In college, you only get to pick two.
2006-09-17 03:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by bebeeangeldust 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really smart people often get mad fun of because other people are jealous. You will get labeled a know it all if you constantly prove people wrong. But it's hard when you know a lot of stuff and you hear people saying stuff that is wrong. You have to teach yourself not to worry about it so much because you end up trying to prove people wrong all the time and then nobody wants to hang out with you. And I can definitely tell you that girls hate know it all guys. They can't stand them, even if they are really smart. So thinking too much and knowing too much can definitely make things harder and turn people off. Just consider the knowledge and smartness a hidden power. Use it to your advantage but don't show it to people all the time. Learn more social skills like humor and such. Don't purposely act dumb though like some people. It also has to do with the friends you choose. Smart people generally want to hang out with other smart people so they can have more intelligent conversations.
If you find someone on your level then you can be more yourself. You have to consider if you are willing to compromise to fit in with people. Be smart and be intelligent but dont' make it a habit to have to prove to people they are always wrong and not as smart as you.
There will always be people smarter than you at things and you don't like it if they prove you wrong or are know it alls all the time. Give people a chance to talk about stuff and if you notice they are wrong just let it go unless it is important or it's a critical conversation. With someone you like definitely dont' try and act like you know everything, etc.
2006-09-17 03:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by Trevor B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it should hurt your social life, but you should just monitor the way you talk to people, and be non-threatening. Some people feel intimidated by people who are smarter than them. Religion is said to be a bad topic to even talk about on a date, or in a social situation.
I also think you should only talk about math, physics with people who are also interested in those things, as most people will probably find it boring.
If you know a lot about a lot of different subjects it should be easier to talk to people, although from watching "Beauty and the Geek," the girls tended to care about entertainment gossip, and the guys were interested in Math and Physics type things.
2006-09-17 03:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the chicken and egg thing comes in to play here. Which comes first, not having a social life, or knowing a lot? One promotes the other. By not having a social life, you have lots of time to study. By studying all the time, you don't have much of a social life.
2006-09-17 03:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother those people who say you know too much. That's my goal, to know everything. If I am able to do that, I wouldn't care if the whole world would laugh at me. this is my life, i do what i want to do with it.
2006-09-17 03:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lonez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being inteleectual is cool but it is sooooo not cool when you start showing off. Arrogance isnt something people want to see...
2006-09-17 03:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jasmine Ird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-09-17 03:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by melissa r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋