I lived with my in laws when I got married. We lived there for about a year. My mother in law is very manipulative and controlling, 2 years later and she still isn't over the fact that her son is HAPPILY married! We moved out 7 months ago and are very, very far away from her! Once we moved out I told my husband how I felt about her and he said he preferred I don't talk to her anymore b/c its just not healthy for me. She says things that are hurtful and just plain mean. I have a step son who I always thought she was manipulating and telling him mean things about me but im not one to interrogate a child so I never had proof until now. I found out she told him that she heard through a friend of mine that i was making fun of her other grandchild who was recently diagnosed with autism. I WOULD NEVER! I'm waiting for my husband to come home from work to talk to him about it...he always says well she's crazy but thats not an excuse for her **** and I want it to end today!! HELP!!????
2006-09-16 20:38:25 · 26 answers · asked by JustMe! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know she says these things to try to cause friction between my step son and myself. He's a young kid about to hit 13 soon and we get along ok for the most part. I think its so wrong of her to do that. Yes I totally belive in Karma and i know she's getting what she deserves but I'm just so maddddd!!!!
2006-09-16 20:45:40 · update #1
Wow. We have the same mother in law. She actually called my husband and told him that I thought I was better than everybody and that I was a wedge between him and his family. Which is actually true of HER because ever since we got married she has spread absolute lies about me to his family, and now they don't come around much anymore because of these lies.
We started couples therapy. The therapist told my husband to stay away from her because she is a wedge in his life and in his marriage. This with no prompting from me, as I have always taken the high road and not played her games.
I think you and your husband should do the same and cut her out of your lives as much as possible for the sake of your marriage and family.
Good luck.
2006-09-16 20:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki Tesla 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same hell my husband's mom is a complete ***** she always tried to stir up trouble and would tell me and my husband lies trying to get us into arguments she even called my parents saying she wanted us to get divorced she even told my husband that our kids looked different well I would take a DNA anytime and any place anyways it got so bad we started arguing alot well my husband got fed up with the bull crap and told her if she couldn't accept me and quit her bull it would be better for us to stay away from each other till this day on we have no contact with her what so ever and she has none with us life is good real good I'm glad she's out of our life when you get married you marry the one you love you don't marry the family and you forsake all others it shouldn't have to be that way but you can't let people rip your marriage apart either you gotta do what you gotta do I would have a talk to him I mean a real good talking to I know how you feel
2006-09-16 20:48:23 · answer #2 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lady you said you moved very far away. Drop it. Ignore it. Get over it. She is nuts.
If you want tell your husband but don't expect to end it now. It wont. She has always been like this she isn't going to change. All that will happen is she will never talk to you and possibly your husband again. But you can bet she will be talking about you and your husband to everyone else in the world.
Drop it. Ignore it. Stay away for the evil B itch.
2006-09-16 20:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you no longer live with so you do not have to worry about seeing her anymore, Its a good thing that your husband is on your side.
If your step son lives with I would sit him down and tell him your side. Tell him that some of the things that his grandma said are not true.
Just cause she is your mother in law does not mean you have to see her at all ever.
2006-09-16 20:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to call her and tell her what you heard. At least to get it out of your system. She is a mother in law from hell. Believe me I know I been through that. She sounds very controlling. Don't let her get the best of you. She just wants to get under your skin and make you and your husband have problems. At least you live far from her. Talk to your step son and tell him you care for him deeply and you would never make comments about her other grandchildren. Talk to your husband and maybe he can put his mother in her place in leaving you a lone once and for all!
2006-09-16 21:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only your husband can put things in their proper perspective. Have that talk with him. Impress upon him that he needs to step up and tell his mother to stop meddling and being cruel and disruptive. You are his family and it is his duty to stand up, be THE man and do the right thing. Can't he see whats happening? Doesn't he have a backbone? She is causing both you and his son to be miserable and how can he sit idle by and do nothing. He should also reassure his son that you love him and would do nothing to make him unhappy.
Your husband needs to STEP UP!
Personally I feel that you have handled the situation with dignity and character. I would like to share this quote with you. "When things are not going your way, use it as an opportunity to show how much class you have".
2006-09-16 20:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you don't say/do anything to her directly, you might need for your hubby to do it on your behalf since she'll more likely to listen to him and you'd be most likely to be really mad at her to even care how painful you could say things. It just won't fix anything much and won't help you both in any way.
Better cool down. You know yourself better and your husband and friends would know better as well if you are really capable on doing those nasty things as she says. Remember, no matter what you do and intend to do, she is still your mother-in-law and you have a binding relationship when you married his son. You will have to work things out for its sake.
And do pray hard that she realizes all her actions and change before the devil itself takes her.
2006-09-16 20:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband definately needs to step in and tell his mother to cool it. Until she hears it from him, I doubt she will stop running her mouth. He also needs to have a talk with his son to let him know that some of the things grandma has said just arent true (mainly the things involving you).
Its hard enough to be a step parent, but to have a family member making that much harder, GEEZ! What a witch (change that first letter if you want).
2006-09-16 20:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by ~ Amanda ~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your mother in law can't be the devil because mine is!!! I have the same issues with the monster in law, except my husband refuses to see the problem!! I stay as far away from her as possible, while still trying to have a relationship with my husband! It is frustrating, but if your husband will listen to you, vent and get it all out and stay away!! Good luck!!
2006-09-16 20:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by XxbrooklynnxX 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call her up and demand to know why she is saying these things about you.
If she is saying things to the step son too, your husband has to get involved and tell her to pull her head in.
2006-09-16 20:41:14 · answer #10 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋