I am too sensitive. I let everything get to me. At work, when my manager criticizes me, I get my feelings hurt. People hurt my feelings when they talk about me. I like honesty, but I can't handle the truth. I cry about everything. How do I stop this sensitivty and get some toughness?
2006-09-16 20:37:38 · 14 answers · asked by sweettart05921 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I wish I had the answer to your question, because I am the same way. I just got my BS in Psychology because I used to feel as badly as you do, and then I realized that people that are hurtful toward me usually have psychological problems. Wanting to delve deeper into these same kind of issues and understand why is what led me to finally figure out what I wanted to do with my life!
Sweetie, let me tell you something...it isn't you. Just the fact alone that you are asking this question says something about you, and that is you are willing to look at yourself. The kind of people that you complain about don't look at themselves. Instead they look at everyone else. So, my advice is consider the source! What kind of person is the person who is criticizing you? Do you respect and admire this individual and feel that he/she is qualified to make a negative evaluation about you? MOST of the time when people talk about you it is because they are jealous. But, I do know how you feel. Just hang in there!
2006-09-16 20:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think that maybe you aren't too sensitive but that many people are insensitive towards you. Truth is one thing but there's nothing wrong with being a little tactful too. Some people don't know any better and other s are just jerks and get off on being rude. They hide behind this rudness by claiming their honest or their out-spoken as i f it was a virtrue.It is not. Because something is true doesn't give one the right to spread it around If somthing serves no point but to hurt someone else it's wrong.
2006-09-17 04:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by matt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Step out of the 'victim' role, as long as you feel anything said to or about you is a direct attack you will get hurt a lot. You don't actually need to be 'tough'as you put it, just more laid back about what other people say. If your boss hurts you by criticizing your work, ask him to be constructive in his criticism, to tell you what you are doing wrong and how to do it better. If people are talking about you it tells you more about themselves than about you, YOU are the only one that really knows you and therefore the only one to be able to say anything about you that matters.
You are the most important person in your own life, so it is time to start caring about yourself instead of about others.
2006-09-17 03:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Courage 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was, am, and probably ever will be in the same place! but, as years go by, i realise one thing. there's noone better than yourself. live by it, and you'll find ways to be happier. letting other people get to you, seems like you don't believe very much inyourself. be confident !! it's the key-word. when you love yourself, automatically you have an ally to your problems.and that's you and you and you. never let other people tell you what you are worth and what you are made of.just do it yourself !! i think that even now, with so many opinions collected, you feel better already !! best wishes and remember we only live once.so sit back, relax and enjoy, make peace with yourself.(being sensitive in nowadays, is a privilege, the world sucks, not you)
2006-09-17 06:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by mar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be exactly like that... this is what I did.
I got a notebook....and I wrote down all of my bad qualities. I seperated them into four categories : Emotional, Social, Over-all Personalitywise and Mentality-wise.
Be hard on yourself, think objectively and write them all down. Then have a look at all the negative attributes and see how they overlap. For example: I used to snap alot which was due to me keeping everything inside because I was afraid no one would care because I had low self-esteem.
Once you find the root problem make an active effort to deal with it. Make journal entries, try to react differently to situations and so on. While I was doin it, I took up tae-bo. And at the end of it, my self-esteem improved, i had a thicker skin and a hell of a tummy....good luck.
2006-09-17 06:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I am sensitive too. Although I've noticed it's improving with age. Maybe because I'm burned out with worries of how other perceive me. I'm to the point now that I can see those picking me apart for the exact same things they themselves do. Most are hypocrites. Go about your business and don't show it upsets you and they'll move on to someone else not even realizing they offended you. You are fine for who you are. It's best to be sensitive than insensitive.
2006-09-17 09:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're young, it will come with time. Some day you will understand the difference between constructive criticism and someone who just wants to dump on you. Then you will understand when you need to stand up for yourself. So the next time you're faced with someone saying things to you that don't make you feel warm and fuzzy ask yourself if there is any truth to what they are saying. It's likely the toughest question you will ever ask yourself and you will learn from that. If they are just being nasty, tell them to contact me cause I have no prbm telling mouth pieces to shut up. Signed, older and wiser.
2006-09-17 03:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by patti duke 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same way, but the more bad experiences you have the more you decide that your not going to let anyone run over you anymore. After having an ex husband, and ex boyfriend that pretty much ran over me and caused me so much mental anxiety that it took about 5 yrs. to get over, I decided enough was enough and took control over it. It will come with time.
2006-09-17 03:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look think it like that way what good sensivity can provide you it provide nothing..whenever you feel sensitive divert your mind to other things like video games or t.v..just think that the guy/girl who hurt you will feel the same one day and than forget the topic..sensivity is very common problem in the field of psycology just dont care what people say to you and whtever they say just throw it away and than think you didnt heard what did they say..whenever you feel like crying take a big deep breath divert your mind quickly start playing games or take a nap or eat something do anything but dont think about that topic on which you were about to cry...if you can control your sensivity for one month you can control it for year and if you can control it for year than you can control it for your life time..
2006-09-17 07:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by cool k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a cruel world and you have to get up with times...start slowly and day by day to make yourself tougher, you're not going to survive out there that sensitive. start with someone you're comfortable around and take it step by step....say something that you thought you'd never say...take risks...tell other's the truth... you'll probably start enjoying yourself...good luck, i hope you get through this
2006-09-17 04:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by ~*desiprincess418*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋