There is this girl named Michaela. I have known her since my sophomore year. I am now in my second year of college and we are taking some classes together. In the past few months we have become very close. We talk about anything and everything.
See this is the confusing part: I don't consider her a friend. She IS like a best friend but I don't consider her it. I don't get the whole friend vibe from her. I kind of like her as more than a friend.
She has a really really really really WONDERFUL personality. she's so fun to be around. I always can't wait to be in her presence again.
she's the perfect girl. she has a beautiful face and seriously i'm going to sound like a gay sensitive guy saying this but..she has the face of an angel! she has gorgeous green eyes which really are the window to her soul & other beautiful features.
you see, this girl is perfect but the only problem is...her weight.
She's fat! Not morbidly obese, but chubby.
WHY WHY WHY does she have to be?
& why do i like her?
2006-09-16 20:18:32 · 20 answers · asked by Dylan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
by sophmore, i mean 10th grade in high school, not sophmore in college
2006-09-16 20:19:17 · update #1
i dont really care about her weight. i hope this doesn't sound gross but... i would have sex with her either way. come to think of it, her weight wouldnt really affect our relationship if we did get together but i just want to be able to have a girlfriend that i can look at and be like "wow". one who i can be proud of. i'm generally not shallow... im not looking for a super model. just a girl with at least an average looking face, a good personality, and a good body. if nature didn't bless her with a gorgeous face she can at least perfect her body.
ah, i'm just...so confused.
2006-09-16 20:31:18 · update #2
normally if you're really friends with someone for so long, you get to see/like deeper of the total package than what is just being seen by the naked eye. you surely are not a shallow person who just base attraction on physical beauty. love based on friendship withstands greater boundaries that may come into the relationship (future relationship in your case).
there's nothing wrong with being fat, she can always lose those excess "baggage" of hers when she reaches the age she's getting conscious of her figure. so just go on in liking her and making her fall in love with you back... because once she gets slimmer, the competition may be a lot tougher. you just might regret all the chances you have pass by you when you are already as close as you can be.
2006-09-16 20:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was a very frivolous way of not liking a girl.Shame on you.
I mean get a life dear boy....being chubby is very nice.Do you prefer skinny girls with no meat on their body leading to a zillion health problems?Do not be so obsessed with the media and get entangled with their moronic ideas related to a supposedly "perfect figure".Also, a well rounded body with a supposed chubby tummy and butt is better off in carrying and giving birth to a child.So if you need to get married to her later on , then do think about it.
Anyway the girl can lose weight but can she try and look beautiful if she is not.
You have been blessed with the companionship of a nice and pretty young girl...do not let it go.Cheers!!!
2006-09-16 20:26:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really like her her weight would not be important. Weight may change in a few years but you are only seeing what will embarrase you to be seen with. That is very bad. You need to be her friend and not try to get with her because you will only hurt her and she does not deserve that. P.S. I was a fat girl in high school and turned out to be 115 pounds by 12 th grade.
2006-09-16 20:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by marilee w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you may have something of a basis for a relationship. You like her for her personality and you like being around her.
Why do you have a problem with her being chubby? Are you ashamed of being seen with her? Sounds like you guys are having great fun and you should not worry about her weight. If you want to get her to lose weight, maybe you guys can pick up active hobbies together, hiking, rollerblading, biking, etc. You will get to hang out together, be healthier, and the weight loss will come.
2006-09-16 20:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by whowhat? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably see something in her that's quite valuable. If you can get past the hangup about her weight, she might make an ideal girl for you. After all, she can lose the weight and be the girl of your dreams, or she can lose "the weight" (you) and be the girl of someone else's dreams....I'd hate to be someone who looks back thinking, "She WAS a great girl, why didn't I...I should've..."
Besides, I wouldn't be surprised if she was lovely just the way she is. She might not have a problem...
2006-09-16 20:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by Teoshe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be so damn superficial, it sounds like you are in love with this girl for the great person that she is.
you should be able to get past the physical.
and the only reason you are worried about the fat part is that you are thinking about the sex. have sex with this girl and then see how you feel. she sounds awesome and you are being cruel. she will probably lose weight and be ultra hot one day and you will see her 5 years from now and hating yourself for letting her go.
have sex with her and then see how you feel.
2006-09-16 20:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Trevor B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty obvious that you are extremely influenced by outward appearances...your statement relaying sensitivity in a male as labeling that "gay", and by overlooking the love of your life by labeling her "fat"! I want to say to you that your should wake up, smell the coffee and GROW UP! You are in college...I guess there are no classes in listening to your heart, and forgetting about society...because I am going to tell you something...society doesn't keep you warm at night...society doesn't care about you...society isn't even paying as much attention to you as you think. And if they are...it is fleeting at best! The way you describe this girl...it shocks me to think that you don't realize that you are in love with her. Stop letting your own prejudices destroy your chances of knowing the true meaning and feeling of what it is like to love and have someone love you in return. You have been given one of the greatest opportunities of a lifetime...don't pass it by! By the way...did you ever stop to think that maybe there are things wrong with you too...things that your angel is willing to overlook because all she sees when she looks at you is your heart!
2006-09-16 20:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Linda S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u need to stay away until she's 18 or you can go to prison where lots of hairy dudes will tell you that YOU have the face of an angel, but once she turns 18 you should hook up... you will notice that she doesn't look as fat when she is in front of you all naked and ready for the lovin' you like her because you are starting to fall in love with her, so you are already "F"ed
2006-09-16 20:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by ohyeah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u cared about her as much as u say u do her wieght wouldn't matter I am a bigger girl and all men think liek u
2006-09-16 20:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by sweetchild_4_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like her because she is beautiful. Geez, most of America is overweight. But Americans are beautiful anyway. Love people the way they are.
2006-09-16 20:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by Reba K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋