October of 2004 was the date in email where she emailed an ex to f**k for awhile and possibly engage in some anal. This email was discovered by present boyfriend who was involved with her at the time. He is furious about it. She is sorry and devastated that he discovered this. Her explanation is that at the time he was unemployed and she thought he was a loser and wanted an escape. she claims she now sees he is the man of her dreams and does not want to lose what she has with him. By the way, she worte the email to her ex 6months into the relationship with the guy who she is still with (the one who discovered the email).
2006-09-16 20:11:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A fine tightrope to walk since its the guy who discovered the girl's sexual escapade while they were getting to know each other. If it were the girl discovering something like that...she'd be less likely to freak out.
However,
since 'singles' are apt to act 'single' for whatever reasons while choosing or deciding on a partner, it's a fact of life. Indecision and the inability to predict the future makes people make such choices. Im sure her intentions were for her best interest at the time. Maybe not. How well does he trust her now?
If the guy is mature enough he should be able to move forward. If not, Id say he cant predict the future either and may be giving up the best thing he ever had, a partner who decided on him and likes to romp.
2006-09-16 20:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm feels like someone cant make thier concepts up.......so some distance as i will comprehend those emails are dated really some distance again now and to be truthful it would want to were only a mistake on her section, in spite of the undeniable fact that distinctive questions u prefer to unravel. a million) Is she sorry she did it or sorry she were given stuck ? 2) did something easily ensue in individual ? , if not develop into something setup ? 3) Whats to provide up her doing an same difficulty again ? To be truthful beside the point to those solutions i wud walk away, of direction u were with this lady for a lengthy time period, yet is it fairly fairly truthfully worth the heartache and rigidity of questioning consistently who she is emailing ? or assembly for that count number ? Her emaplanation for her in discretion fairly doenst wash with my intestine instinct, feels like she develop into after an excuse to get her out the difficulty yet ended up with a lame one lol. im positive that if ur ex develop into down on her success and so on positive u might want to nicely be there for her as a chum yet easily u wudnt invite her to have a romp which includes her. i'm a huge beleiver that u shud take care of others and u wud prefer to be dealt with if not anticipate to be left beind, i recognize what i wud do mate, sturdy success to ya
2016-11-27 19:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult. Potentially very bad.
Some women are always looking out for a better deal. Some are genuine. There's no way to tell which she is without knowing her. So I think you -excuse me- your friend should take any advice from this site with a grain of salt. Your friend will have to think about the kind of person she is and make a decision about whether or not he can trust her.
2006-09-16 20:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This was 2 yrs. ago, if the relationship is real, they should know by now, many things have changed probably since then. Not a good thing to come across, will need much communication. If love be there...don't let it go.
2006-09-16 20:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Smoky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW thats a biggie. I guess cheating is cheating and it matters not if it was done by email, in person or on the phone. I say she cheated and he should listen to his heart. If he can forgive and move on than do so if not part ways and move on with his life. either way good luck to him.
btw: I would get rid of the computer...
2006-09-16 20:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by day 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question is did this "sexual romp" happen? I would be mad as hell but if she is truely sorry and she has been faithful since i suppose she deserves the benefit of the doubt. That really is a tough one and that suxs
2006-09-16 20:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would separate from her for a while - and then see how you both feel being away from each other for a few months then discover if it is forgivable or not
2006-09-17 03:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by actresscye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is did they have sex? Did her ex take her up on the offer? And would she do it again?
2006-09-16 22:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should rid himself of the filthy little whore :)
no,for real though.. six months together with someone and they are emailing their ex for free sex? thats nuts and not right.. he should ultimately move on and leave her to the butt sexing ex
2006-09-16 20:16:24 · answer #9 · answered by minx 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just ignore her and find a new girlfriend ! There is another chance she could repeat the same mistake....
2006-09-16 20:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by dandelion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋