there is this girl i hang out with when i go o the club she is very fun and everybody there seems to know her she always got people coming up to her hugging her etc. i want to be more like her but i feel that my social anxiety disorder will keep me from making friends what do i do to be more confident and outgoing?
2006-09-16 20:05:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well for a shy person I use thing I would rather be more like an out going type of person but over the years I have learnt that I am not I am me and this is how I am am just be your self.
2006-09-16 20:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly ur going wrong by wanting to be like someone else, its importnant for us all to have our own unique personal identity. sure she may have loads of people round her etc but if i know females those peeps will be slaggingg her off behind her back 2 mins later. U say that u have a social anxiety issue ? well my experinence in that sorta thing is kinda limited but id probly say try get some conselling. All to often these disorders are caused or affected by current situations and will only get better once that has been changed or u have had closure on a past time of ur life. If however ur not comfortable with that have u tried maybe talking to a close friend of memeber of the familly? its sometimes easier tlaking to someone that knows u well. These people can often give u a fresh outlook on things or atleast let u get things off ur chest. I do hope it works out and dnt try to be someoone u aint, we all have a great person inside and if we work hard enuf we can release that person :)
2006-09-17 03:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by Phantom Viper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself - people will love you for being who you are. Dont be jealous over who she is and dont try to be the person you are not. You are a special individual who will shine at your own time. I cant say anything that will help you with your social anxiety disorder because I dont understand how you feel but I hope that one day you can overcome your fear and go out there and be the person you are.
If no-one respects/accepts who you are then they are not worth being friends with.
I hope this helps!
2006-09-17 03:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to Network and discover People who want to know you and your Unique brand of Humour or Insight into situations!
Be Opinionated(Not to over the top) Ask people about themselves, become a Good Listener.
This will help develop your confidence-then before you know it ...
You'll be the one people come to,talk to,hang with and seek advice and fun from!
Be the center of any attention for the Right Reasons(For Being YOU! For Being YOURSELF!!)
2006-09-17 03:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be like her. Be like yourself. No one wants a duplicate of someone. They key to being outgoing is having confidence. We are all human beings, you don't need to be shy around these people. You must push yourself to build your confidence, tell yourself you are fun, tell yourself to walk up to john and talk to him. If you are saying something in your head, spit it out. Speak what's on your mind, let people know how cool you are. Carry yourself like you know you are a foxy lady, and people will start loving you like they love her.
2006-09-17 03:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by sweettart05921 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to start friendly flirting with your mouth, walk up and TALK to people, speak to people when they want to talk to you even if ur not interested just have a conversation. Thats what i do and that how so many people know me when I go to clubs I go outside and social smoke a cig. and just jump in to people convo.
2006-09-17 03:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by wonder woo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be like another person to be liked..good friends, you only need a few. When you meet new people, just don't feel nervous introducing yourself
2006-09-17 03:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by Neutro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always be yourself, but I have to agree with Ryan get drunk and you will be a whole different person. However, know your limit.
2006-09-17 03:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by Miss. Tee98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to develop a style that suits you and pursue it, not just develop a bag of tricks. Always be yourself.
2006-09-17 03:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep hanging out with her and try to be nice to people you meet. Try to remember their names and something they talked about when you see them next.
2006-09-17 03:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by marilee w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋