2006-09-16 19:35:58 · 21 answers · asked by day 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The decision to forgive lies within you. Can you forgive him? Can you not bring it up in his face every time you have an argument? Can you trust him again with your heart? Will you be able to trust him when he says he was working late and not suspect he was with another woman? It is very hard to forgive and forget. I have been there. My husband did the same thing and I chose to stay but forgiving was a very long time in coming and our relationship has never been the same. We have been married for 18 years and the affair happened 13 yrs ago but I have never trusted him like I did before he hurt me to the core. Biblically you may divorce him and remarry because he failed to keep his marriage vows.
You have to make this decision and it is a hard one. I hope you have a strong support system to help you through this difficult time in your life.
2006-09-16 19:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by USMC-mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say right off the bat no...six months is a relationship! He can say it was just sex all he wants, but that takes dedication! All the lies, the sneaking around, the WORK that takes? What's going on that it was worth all that? THAT being said, are children involved? If so, and there is a way to work things out, perhaps you should at least talk about it. But you gut will tell if this is something you can live with or not. If you think you can't, then you shouldn't.
2006-09-17 03:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is 100% up to you and only you, because you are the one who has to do the forgiving.
If he is clearly sorry and you are sure he sincerely means never to do it again, give him a chance. If he does it again, you have to decide whether or not you want to live that way, because at that point it will be not a mistake but a pattern.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-17 02:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by sparticle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you get to have a 6 month affair too.
2006-09-17 02:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months thats a relationship if he had slept with someone once and realized it was a mistake well thats one thing but 6 months thats ground for a divorce
2006-09-17 02:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he will do it again. He will straighten up long enough to get out of trouble but it will happen again and again. however many times it takes until you get tired of it and leave. You will never trust him again and that is a miserable way to live
2006-09-17 03:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by Doc Phil 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no once is a mistake 6 months he knew better. Like the saying goes Once shame on you, twice shame on me.
2006-09-17 02:38:42 · answer #7 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally not!
If he can cheat on you for 6 months, how can you guarantee that he won't do it again after you forgive him?
2006-09-17 02:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you should forgive him or not.
Deep down he will never be forgiven by you and you will use it against him when you deem it necessary.
2006-09-17 02:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater but too it depends on your eithics and if you feel that he is worthy of your trust again
2006-09-17 02:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋