Hello I am new on this.. I know all the gays are not girlie.. there are guys who acts very straight.. I dont like girlie men.. and someone told me about the gaydar but I dont know what exactly is that? and how to use? how u will know if that person is gay or bi? andu were born with that thing or just throught the experience u will learn to know who is gay or bi...I hope your answers thankss
2006-09-16 19:34:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Okay...you're not born with it as such.
A lot of gaydar is just picking up subtleties of behaviour...like someone wearing a rainbow bracelet(that's an extremely obvious example--but there are much more subtle things)...also gaydar can involve (and mostly does) eye contact...psychologists know that if 2 males maintain longer than normal direct eye contact that they either want to make love with each other or they want to fight each other...
gaydar is all about little clues that you pick up about someone...if they watch a good looking gay man when he comes in the room, if they just behave in a sublte gay way.....you'll learn and it'll start coming easy to you
2006-09-16 19:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
GayDar is actually a patented invention. Gaydar is a little badge or device you can keep about your person, and when it senses it is close to another of the smae kind of device, it beeps to let you know that there is another like-minded person in the area. Now gaydar (sic) has come to mean an ability to tell whether people are gay from the merest encounter with them. It is rubbish though, as it is not possible to tell if someone is gay from just looking at them for a minute or exchanging a few sentences. Sure, some people are overtly gay (good for them) and you'd have to be an idiot not to realise that. But there are many straight guys who 'camp it up' to get female attention, gay guys who don't advertise their sexuality, and everything in between. So if you meet a few guys and know they are gay before they tell you, well congratulations, but you don't have gaydar. You couldn't pick out every gay guy from a crowd. I have also heard about Jewdar- where you can tell if another person is Jewish. So if you see someone in full religious regalia, and go, hey, I think they're Jewish, you haven't done anything clever, really. It's the same with gaydar. If you see two men kissing, and it sets off your gaydar, well, congratulations. You have eyes.
2006-09-17 02:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by big_fat_goth 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's just something that some people develop at an early age. Not every gay person has gaydar and some straight people have it. I have bidar; I can spot a bisexual, male or female, at 100 yards. I don't know why I have it. It serves no earthly purpose in my life. I'm bisexual but it makes no difference to me if my partners are unless it's a group thing and I haven't done that in many years. I have a degree of gaydar but it was actually better when I was a child. I'm not sure when I got my bidar because there were very few openly bisexual people in the early part of my life.
2006-09-17 02:41:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kuji 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is an experienced based thing, but you learn it from a very young age. When meet people that are "different" you kind of can piece the qualities together, but they don't all have the same qualities. I don't really think you need to use it, unless you're looking to date the same sex, because a gay person's gaydar is much better than a straight. On the bottom line though, what does it really matter which sex they are interested in?? People are people, and equally.
2006-09-17 02:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by susie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing, you are probablly more confused now than ever with some of these funny yet inacurate answers. It's very simple... There is no real such thing as GAYDAR it's just a little something we say when we think we've detected a gay person.
As for how you will know...experience. Living in San francisco for awhile, I am real attuned to it, but maybe you live somewhere where you just dont get that experience, otherwise you'de already have GAYDAR and would'nt be asking this question.
2006-09-17 03:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
GayDar?detecting if someone is gay or enduldges in the lifstyle!alot of the answers by others are cute,well are you sitting down(smile).First,it,s not a thing,it,s basically common sence!and to pick up on certain action of how a person expresses themselves,like some NOT!and get it wrong?but true experiance is a good teacher being around gay friends,and observe.i,ve learned this throughout my years,my straightdar! works pretty well also,but times fool me also and they endulge(males)it,s a little deep at times trying to figure out such(lol)but the lesson is,if desire to know if a person is and you both are cool,ways of theirs is abit off,just ask the person and if a friend shouldn,t have a prob with giving an answer in return.Now the boyfriend if differ or girl trying to find out if messes around,You gotta watch,scan all iles if so,or simply ask til you are satisfied wish you luck on your journey.If your sences can tell or pic up on just about anything add it to what you seek(smile)
2006-09-17 03:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by sheena s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's just a myth, really, not a real thing. But I do feel like I can usually tell, and so can my daughters. If we feel that somone is gay, we just refer to it by saying our "gaydar went off." That doesn't mean we are right or that we would notice every single person who was gay.
2006-09-17 02:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure my GayDar is broken I never know... All my friends GayDars are well in tact.. I think it's something that you get from experience.. It's confusing.
2006-09-17 02:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by idk 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its experience, gaydar is where you can tell if other men are gay, you just pretty much know
2006-09-17 10:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by aberboychris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I've got pretty good GayDar...not to toot my own horn. I guess I was born with it, I don't really know where I picked it up.
2006-09-17 02:36:03 · answer #10 · answered by PANDABEAR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋