I've loved him since it happened in January of 2002. He was the second person I was sexual with,and my boyfriend whom I am still with today was my first.It happened when I was 16 but I feel the same way as I did back then and I'm now 21. Please don't think I'm sick I really have no where else to turn.For some reason I feel like he loved me so much that he wanted to show me anyway he could.Even if I was passed out drunk sleeping in the next room.
2006-09-16 19:33:42 · 16 answers · asked by ripe21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to get some counseling for this! You were victimized and used, this is not love (not to mention that it's incest). There is a disorder similar to what you describe that some rape victims go through. You have to realize the true nature of your attack, and move on, in a more healthy way. I know you don't want to hear it, but I hope you take the advice of all of us that suggest you seek counseling. We are not trying to judge you, just help you.
2006-09-16 21:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think girls let someone go on molesting them for so long? This is a common feeling and there is actually a name for it used by psychiatrists. You were raped by someone you where supposed to be able to trust. He did not love you, he used you with no regard for your life. Psychological trauma causes very confused thoughts. You are experiencing post traumatic stress disorder and need counseling. Your uncle needs to be in jail. How are you going to feel when your uncle rapes your daughter one day? It's not going to make you very happy. Well, you were that girl at one time. Stay away from your uncle and talk to someone about this. It will only get worse as you get older and comes with a terrible price. Alcoholism, drug use, and many problems come from being raped without getting counseling.
Your uncle is a sick bastard, someone who loves you would never do that to you. Hopefully he isn't raping other young girls. You should probably tell the police what happened so he can't go around raping other young girls like you.
2006-09-17 02:52:00 · answer #2 · answered by Trevor B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I seriously think you should see a counselor of some sort or a support group.
What your uncle did was unacceptable. Being raped, I am sure, is an awful experience that is very hard to come to terms with. Your feelings of love for your uncle are probably your way of making a very, very wrong experience seem not so bad.
Taking advantage of a drunk, sleeping, underage FAMILY MEMBER is not love. When someone loves you, they do not harm you physically or emotionally; they do not use you for sex; and, they do not do things to you against your will or without your knowledge or consent. Your uncle also broke several laws, that exist for very good reasons (statutory rape, rape, child abuse, and incest).
You did not do anything wrong. You cannot be blamed for this incident. It does not make you a bad person or any less valuable of a person. Your uncle, however, is a bad person. You cannot justify his behavior by thinking that he loved you. His actions do not show love and do not deserve love.
2006-09-17 02:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to judge you...but how can you love someone who actually RAPED you!!! A person who rapes does not love...a person who rapes cares only for satisfying sexual desires...that is all...
If we leave the fact that he raped you aside, it is stillvery very wrong...he is your UNCLE!!! how can you love your own uncle!!! You can love him as an uncle...but not as more than that...
Please think about what i have just said...try to understand it...it is not right...and if you think you cannot get over these feelings..seek professional help!
2006-09-17 02:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by Need Help! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how u fell in love with your uncle that way but him showing that he loves u is not the answer. Try your best to get over it, stay with your boyfriend and hope that it all works out.
2006-09-17 02:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Egypt S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need serious help I'm not saying this to be mean or anything but you need help...its sick because you want to be with your uncle its also sick because he rapped you and you fell in love with you...he didn't love you so much that he thought he would rape you to show you what made you think that?he rapped you because hes a sick individual and needs help...just wonder who he did it to in the past 5 years...you need to go to counseling and get help..and your trying to cope with the fact that he did that..your trying a easy way out and thinking he did it because he loved you so much and wanted to show you is sick..you shouldn't think like that...GO GET SOME HELP!
2006-09-17 03:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by chew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This question is better left to professionals, and I encourage you to seek treatment. "Loving" an abuser is not a "normal" reaction to rape. And the reasons are far more deep seated than should be discussed here. Peace and Good Luck.
2006-09-17 02:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Raping your niece who is too drunk to stop you is not how an uncle shows his love.
Get yourself into counselling to explore why you feel you should be treated like a toilet.
2006-09-17 02:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you're using that as a coping mechanisim, where you should feel angry and hurt, you've replaced that with "love". You really should seek counseling, it would probably help. How's your relationship with your uncle now???
2006-09-17 02:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by geebus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is merely the remembrance of the sexual experience you had with him and NOT love...
May be he is very good at sexual act and has the ability to give wonderful pleasure to gals... but you are mixing love with sex...
Do you see any life of the relationship with your uncle? If no, then forget him and focus on your friend.
2006-09-17 02:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by CosmicLight 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋