Found out 3 yrs ago. She would sneek out while kids where asleep & I was working 3rd shift. We were 32 at the time. He was the next door neighber.
2006-09-16 19:26:30 · 18 answers · asked by K B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
confront her........
2006-09-16 19:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough call, for anyone. You have children and you have an investment in the marriage. I would certainly get to the bottom of WHY it happened. I wouldn't automatically let go of the marriage, but I would certainly evaluate the possibility of it happening again. Also, it is tough to forgive, to be sure, but it can be done. If you do forgive, move forward and don't bring it up again, like during a fight or times of troubles. Sometimes these things can serve as a way to create a better marriage, simply because you communicate. Good luck. Peace.
2006-09-16 19:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear freind,
Its difficult to give advice in such a scenario, as we dont know the exact scenario.
BUt we live in a world where double standards are there for mrn and women. If u can forive urself if u had done that, why can't u forgive her after U UNDERSTAND HER WHY SHE DID IT ?
2006-09-16 19:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by nispro2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's been three years since you found out, you obviously didn't want to end the marriage right there on the spot. I would recommend couples counselling for both of you.
2006-09-16 19:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out the real reason why she cheated. Maybe it was because you were too busy working and was never home to give her some intimate time. If it is the case then give her a second chance. Everyone deserves one
2006-09-16 19:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by vee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really think that you have never thought or have never gone to bed with the other girl then you can leave her... but still it is a question why this reaction after 3 years???
2006-09-16 19:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by CosmicLight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her about it... but don't go yelling at her even though you feel like doing so... sounds mad, but it might worsen the situation... do it as CALMLY as you can, no matter how you are feeling... and make sure that the kids are nowhere nearby... send them outside to play or something... talk to your wife and be honest with each other... work out something... it's not just for the two of you but for your kids as well...
2006-09-16 19:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by get.real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is scandalous
if she will do it once IT WILL happen ago
a hoe will ALWAYS be a hoe
I have buddies who have caught there lady messin around and the ones who stuck it out always said "man if it werent for the kids I would....."
well thats insane I would STILL leave because next thing you know you are going to come home one night from work and he is going to be running around your home in YOUR underwear
watching TV likes its his home!!
I had a buddy who was in the pradicatment..
Whoo weee
OJ Simpson..........................
I UNDERSTAND Buddy !!!!!
2006-09-16 19:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by Scanless1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are oviously still upset by this but are trying to wok it out maybe you should seek marriage counseling to help you cope with the trust issues and feeling of being betrayed.
2006-09-16 19:29:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry. is it still going on? talk to her and resolve it. make or break is the only solution. she maybe "conned" by the "fun" or excitment and needs to "wake up"?
once a heart has changed its as good as gone. whatever be fair to the kids?
good luck.
2006-09-16 19:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by superyoyogirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u say u found out 3 years ago? apparently you love her! have u 2 REALLY sat and talked about it? u should!!! let her know how u feel.
2006-09-16 19:41:59 · answer #11 · answered by babybear330682000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋