My boyfreind of 9 years is a cop and he works all the time. We have two beautiful kids that he hardly ever gets to spend time with and we are going thru some serious trust and jealousy issues. We are not broken up, but are taking a break from each other by living in seperate homes. A rumor has recently swept thru the PD that he was cheating on me with a female officer and I was feeling so lonley and taken for granted that my trust in him faultered. There is no proof, and they both seem to be outraged about the rumor. We love each other very much but I'm afraid that he is still hurt b/c I thought for a breif second "What if its true?". We thought our relationship was stronger than that. How do I earn it back?
2006-09-16 19:10:06 · 6 answers · asked by sherrie57625 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The rumor was started by a mutual friend that ws mad at us for not taking her with us on an outing. And the woman in question is going thru a divorce. She and my boyfreind have a brother sister relationship and she is 10 years older than us. He treats her like one of the guys.
2006-09-16 19:57:32 · update #1
Well first of all...I am a police officer, so I would say that it wouldn't be surprising to learn that your man actually was messing around with someone else on the job...That's what cops do...They have a woman at home and one on the job. It's easy and very convenient.
As far as you earning his trust back...there is nothing for you to do because you didn't lose any trust on his part...he's just upset that you didn't believe him and he's milking it out as much as he can and making you feel bad for questioning him...which is exactly what he wants you to do...
Of course I know this is something you don't want to hear, but it's what you need to hear. I know where you are coming from. Just keep your eyes open. Don't feel like you are at fault for this at all. Just tell him how you feel, but don't be his servant and do all types of things to prove to him how sorry you are because more than likely, you had every right to at least consider that the rumors might possibly be true.
2006-09-16 19:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to earn it back. he should prove it. Alot of times your gut is right. Even if it started with a rumor. Once you lose trust the relationship is dying
2006-09-17 02:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by pryncess 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
times go by life is like a wheel and the earth is round our lives is not the same 9 years ago,like I said times go by,things changes you have to find that out,you know why? you are not married to him, he can do what ever he do,he is a single man.
2006-09-17 02:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by verdance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be a dad to his kids. Was this officer married?
2006-09-17 02:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dnt know.
HOW
That the same question ive been asking.
HOW??
i really dont know.
how, is something that is really hard. Im dnt trust anyone. Trust people has only gotten me hurt.
I just wanna say im sorry, really sorry.
Um..ask him, if they are true.
Ask him if he loves you, coz you really wanna settle down. Not everyone on here will give you wat you wanna hear. You have to follow wat you believe.
Good luck.
2006-09-17 02:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Nita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him clearly if he gonna leave that *****..
2006-09-17 02:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Leonardo Da Vinci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋