Ok I found out I am pregnant and my son is only seven months. I am only 20 and am scared of abortion, I hate the idea and never thought it would be me. I only have a couple of weeks to decide but am sad everytime I think about it. I feel like a horrible person. I dont want to take away from the two I have already. We are in a financial bind and everything is happening at once. My miscarrige haunts me till this day and now I have a choice and don't want to make a bad one. My gut feeling is a 50/50 and am terrified. I can't believe they make you wait till your at least 6 weeks which bothers me more. What should I do.? I would feel like a hypocrit if I do it but would feel worse putting my family in more of a financial bind. What would you do in my situation? Please help I need guidence in this time.
2006-09-16 18:40:47 · 18 answers · asked by aerokitty 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think deep down you know the answer......Keep the baby things will sort themselves out financially. Good luck.
2006-09-16 18:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a horrible situation to face.
I cannot believe they forced you to wait six weeks, when at any earlier time you could avoid a sugical abortion and have a much, much simpler procedure the US government doesn't want you to know about.
Finances do matter and with other children in the house, especially a baby, you may not be able to face up to the physical demands of pregnancy. I wonder if any of the anti-abortionists would send over someone to help you every day to clean your house, cook you a nutritious meal and take care of the baby while you take a nap. I sincerely doubt any of them would make that kind of committment because they are more dedicated to the unborn than to 7 month-olds.
That said, you may want more children and when you are 20, the dangers of having two so close together are less pronounced -- normally its healthier to wait at least 18 months between pregnancies. Can you eat properly, get enough rest and do everything you can to ensure the baby can grow in a healthy womb environment? Do you have enough energy to love the third as deeply and truly as you love the first?
Only you can make this decision. No one can influence you or make you feel any other way. What you need to know in this situation is the YOU know best. You know yourself, your family, your limitations, and your abilities. You will do the right thing for you.
2006-09-17 01:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by baggyk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u know a baby is a gift from god,I know people that keep trying & they never get pregnant, so be thankful that u r blessed by being able to have children, there is no other joy then having a baby, things will work out. I personally don't believe in abortions. At 6 weeks they have already began developing & they are a baby. I do have a couple of friends who have had them & they still regret their choice. Things always happen for a reason. And That the financial problems in your familys life will work themselves out. Take Care & good luck
2006-09-17 01:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a terrible situation! I'm so sorry to hear of it.
Look, we are both grown-ups, so I'll speak to you frankly. Legal and safe abortions exist to give us an alternative. I was also in an awful situation much like yours many years ago, and that is what I did. I don't regret it.
And, yet, this is not the path for everyone; it may be that living closer to the edge, financially, would be less difficult for you than an abortion. Only you can decide.
I certainly hope that you find a solution that feels right to you. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-17 01:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on everything you've said here, I think an abortion would destroy you for life. You say you hate the idea. Can you really live with yourself if you do it? It seems your heart is telling you to have the baby but you're afraid of money issues. It's only money, and it's only temporary. Money comes and goes, an abortion is forever and you can't take it back.
2006-09-17 01:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have 3 choices......Raise, Abort or Adopt. Only you can decide what's best for you....not us. If you ca't financially keep another one, perhaps adoption is the way to go. Again, you have to live with the decision you make so only you can make it. Good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-09-17 01:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be ugly but come on, your only 20 and already have 2 kids and you know you can't afford another one so why are you pregnant? It's too bad you were irresponsible and now have to make a tough decission. I can't tell you what to do but you need to learn about birth control.
2006-09-17 01:57:01 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please, please, please don't boil a person's whole valuable life down to temporary money problems. I know how tough that can be, but the world needs your baby!! Money problems will pass, but no one can give the unique love and contribution to society that God sent your baby to make. Hang in there (I have five myself, so I know it's not easy). Please let him or her live! You "don't want to take away from the two you have" -- they will be better off doing without an extra toy and having a sibling to go through life with, I promise you. Some kid is waiting for your new baby to become his/her future wife or husband, to be a terrific co-worker, whatever. Please let that come true! You can do it!
2006-09-17 01:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't you dare even think of having an abortion. If you don't feel that you are capable of taking care of the child, give them up for adoption. Do you really want to add MURDER to your list of mistakes?!
2006-09-17 01:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by chemicalimbalance000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell ur hubby that he will sort out if i were ur hus then i would like to give that child a new life , do u love ur children ? the same child is in ur tummy so at last give him a new life to live
2006-09-17 01:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by Abhishek Chandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋