Ok, so as you may have guessed or you know im 16 and im sexually active. my parents dont know im sexually active. my mom want to take me to a gyno since ive never been to one because she says i really need to go. shes put it off this far because she thinks im not sexually active so she says i dont really need to go. but she says i need to start...... what do i do??? i dont know how to handle this situation because i cant tell my mom because im dating a guy she doesnt know about but i dont know what to do......please help!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-16 18:38:58 · 16 answers · asked by Cutie_wit_a_booty_08 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok i dont want the stupid answers to this question if you're judgeing about my sexual activity then dont bother answering.
2006-09-16 18:51:49 · update #1
Hey im 16 as well.. ill be 17 before this year tho.. and im also sexually active.. but i have one been with the same person. we both were virgins wen we met. but neway to the point.. we both have talked about telling our parents.. but we couldnt find the right time or place or how to even tell them..then about a month later when my boyfriend was over we told her. we thought she would be mad about it and give us a lecture.. but she was totally cool about it and just asked if we were protected and stuff.. Its so much more relieving now that she knows. its better not having to hide things.. You should tell your mom. Dont keep things from her because then she mite think you are keeping other things and she will begin to not trust you.. or your boyfriend. both of u sit with her and tell her.. and then tell her your using pretection.. Trust me i know what ur going through.. it was SO hard for me to tell my mom.. and the most embarassing thing ever.. but now i can talk to her about anything that has to do with it.. its so much better..
2006-09-16 19:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by ♥OnCloudNine9♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a natural and normal part of human behavior, please dont feel ashamed about being sexually active. I think many people can judge and say silly things to teens and it just makes it harder for them to seek advice, contraception and most importantly acceptance. I can understand why you dont want to tell your mum that you are sexually active, Its personal and if your relationship with her is an uncomfortable environment to tell her, there is no need to.Take good care of yourself and your body and be sencible and you will be just fine.
Why does your mum seem so incistent on taking you to a gyno. Pap smears are unnecessary before the age of 18 (although if your sexually active it is sometimes reccommended to start). Again its your body and if you feel uncomfortable seeing a gyno, you dont have to go. And the whole getting busted because you have no hymen thing is rubbish, many girls (about half) arnt born with one in the first place, so its not an accurate indicater of sexual activity.
Hope this Helps.
2006-09-16 19:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by psycgirl25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a bit lost about your question. Is it that you dont want your mom knowing you are sexually active? If thats the case, your gyno SHOULDNT, and I think isnt allowed to, tell your mom that you are. Its only between you and the gyno. Only if they think you are at some kind of risk, would the gyno tell your mom.
You should go, but make sure its someone you trust and are comfortable seeing, and KNOW will not tell your mom.
2006-09-17 04:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by trainboy765 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Doctor won't be able to tell you've had sex,it can break many different ways(tampons,sports,masturbation,etc).The only way they would know is if you told them,so you'll be fine.Also,most girls don't start going till their at least 18,unless their sexually active(which you are), have period problems,or need birth control,then it's 16,so tell your mom you looked it up on the computer(unless you want to go)and tell her most girls go at around 18 not 16,this way she would not know about your "little secret".Since you are "active",I do suggest you go,so you can make sure you don't get cervical cancer,but I guess you decide what you want to do.I know this because my mom works in the Gyno's office as a nurse,so she tells me the ages women should start going.I hope I helped you some,good luck!
2006-09-16 19:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Im only 13 so I dont know if 16 is too young or not. Im curious about one thing. How can your mom not know you have a steady boyfriend? My dad is a police detective and a very good one to. I bet if he were your dad, your boyfriend or nothing else about your life would be a secret to him. He tells me a lot about what he does. One thing he does is look for clues. It seems with a steady boyfriend there would be plenty of clues for your mom to read. If your mom isnt that sharp and you want to keep her in the dark than just refuse to go to the doctor.
Could you add a part about how your able to keep your boyfriend a secret. I'm really curious.
2006-09-16 19:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your mum before hand,she may get upset at first but will be grateful that your honest with her. She may already know mums have a 6th sense when it concerns their children.
She may want to take you to the gyno to get birth control. She only has your best interest at heart. Tell her and you'll be fine.
Ps- I've heard of kids having sex younger than 16 thesedays so your not a slut and dont listen to some of these moronic posters.
2006-09-16 18:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The doctor can not disclose anything to your mom. Also you may go to the gyno yourself but eventually they may get a copy of the bill. Go to planned parenthood or county health clinic for free, low cost and confidential birth control etc.
2006-09-17 01:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u r sexually active u should goto to the gyno. ur mom doesnt have to b in the room with u. what ever he oe she asks is confidential. he cant tell ur mom u r having sex. u should ask about being on the pill. that is my answer.
2006-09-17 01:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mediwizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your mother it's the best, and its better for her to find out now and not when you accidentally get pregnant because condoms do break or get holes in them. I was 16 when I got pregnant and I wished I had enough courage to talk to her then and get some form of birth control to prevent from becoming pregnant. You and your mom need to set down the two of you women to women and talk let it all out. Moms want the best for their girl, I know I do. So you just need to understand that she maybe understanding or not, you'll have to find out. Do it before it's to late.
2006-09-16 18:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definately go to the gyno. your doctor cant tell your mom anything you tell her in confidence. Its important for other reasons then sex. I lost my virginity at 16 with someone I loved and my mom was ok with it. You should be honest, if you cant then you should't be doing it
2006-09-16 19:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by pryncess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋