2006-09-16 17:36:10 · 25 answers · asked by abbie g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You think its time to take everything not just half and get out or if your like me you kick the *** of the person they are cheating with and then make their life hell for another few years till all they can think about is how wrong they were to cheat then you leave them for someone 10 years younger and way better looking
2006-09-16 17:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check internet sites - if you see some new bookmarks, or even some online dating sites, then chances are he's at least looking around. Check his emails, cel phones, even notes he brings home. Make notes if he leaves the house after dinner and doesnt come home til really late - saying he was going to a store and then got side tracked and ended up talking to someone outside. Check the trash cans for cards or letters from the other person. Become your own detective, but be careful not to leave any trace that your on to him.
Also notice if he's wearing new clothes you've never seen before, or things you know in the past he wouldn't have worn.
Good luck!!
2006-09-16 18:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by Shelby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... if i had suspicions I wouldn't say anything to my spouse to make them think I was onto them. Because if you did then they would really work even harder to cover it up and make it more difficult for you to find out for sure. I would start really paying attention to their comings and goings. If you think they are seeing at a certain time of day, have a good friend help you to follow them so you wouldn't have to use your own car and maybe be spotted. Look for little signs , like taking a shower as soon as they get home. I know this sounds gross but even smell their underwear that they were wearing when they came home. You can definitely smell if someone has had sex and just put their underwear on right after. Check their e-mails. check their calls made and received on the cell phone. check voice mails. Have your friends help you watch them. Lots of stuff....
2006-09-16 17:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by mylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is to easy to walk away but not very smart ,
you need to find out why and if he still loves you ,also is he a serial cheater or no t , You need to talk it though , Marriages and relation ships can survive this type of trouble and in a lot of cases become better. Ask your self do you want to throw it all away or try to repair it . mostly before some one cheats there are other underlying issues and one person is not happy ,possibly heading towards a midlife crises maybe Do you still know the guy you married maybe you are strangers if you don't keep trying you wake up and say who is this person I'm sleeping next to , Give it a lot of thought before you make your next step . been though it my self 15 years ago and we made it and now were both as happy as we ever been , 25 years of marriage coming up
2006-09-16 17:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by jac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, what are the signs? Do you have any proof? Talk to him a bit and see if he looks you in the eye or is shifty about the subject. If his answers don't sound legitimate, you can pay a detective to follow him. Or you can leave him. But, be sure you are right before you go. Some women get very jealous for no reason.
2006-09-16 17:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15yrs is a long time to start making mistakes...
Remember males thinks with penis , beers and any woman who will give them the time of day- could be good or bad as long as somebody is paying attention and not complaining everyday.
Remember woman needs verbal support constantly even though she picks and nits about every single thing she see. Respect and appreciation and not showing others your household woes helps tremendously. Cuddling and spur of the moment gifts are very important after years of being together for a woman.
Cheating: going to someone else for comfort and support. ask politely and brace yourself for heartbreak then hire a therapist and a lawyer.
2006-09-16 17:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by NEMESIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him silly. If he won't fess and you still think he's cheating, hire a private detective. Hire a good one so he won't know. If you don't see anything or find your answer, then maybe it's you. Go to a therapist with each other and talk it out. You've been together for 15 years...something must have been working.
Good luck.
2006-09-16 18:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by the_proms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one! you have a lot of time invested in this relationship and it will be hard to walk away.The main thing is to decide if you can ever trust them again, that is usually the deal breaker. If you think you can ever look at them again and not have to worry about if they are lying to you, then work it out. If the trust is gone for good so is the relationship.
2006-09-16 17:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by patricia_hyland72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first I would question myself, then I would try to get them to tell me something, anything that was going on in their life; at least that would be a start. After that, hopefully a conversation would develope. The last thing I would want after that length of time would be a divorce; not at least without exausting every other effort to save our relationship.
2006-09-16 17:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by BONNIE B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've got that gut feeling that he is, then trust it.
I would have to do some soul searching to determine that, even if we go to counseling and he never does it again, would this be something that I could live with. Would I look at him the same way? Would I ever trust him again?
Then I'd decide from there.
2006-09-16 17:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋