you are at a prayer service for his dead uncle and people, who you have never met wonder who you are while your husband is out socializing with family members leaving you alone feeling alienated. Would you think he is embarrased by you? Serious answers only please.
2006-09-16 17:10:05 · 9 answers · asked by Lunny2006 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I would just ask him in a nonconfrontational way. It may say more about how he feels about his family then about you. Social situations are just awkward for some people, especially men.
My husband sometimes does not introduce me when we are out together because the he cannot remember the name of the person who has come up to talk to him-and he doesn't want to hurt their feelings by saying, this is my wife and what is your name again!
2006-09-16 17:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by chris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In those moments when you engage yourself completely, nothing in the future exists - and nothing in the past is holding you back. While it might be a challenge to always be present, you can start small. As you go about your day, try to be aware of what you're doing, be it driving, typing, or even drinking water. Give your full attention to each activity.
As often as you can, pay complete attention to everything in your immediate surroundings, and keep your thoughts to the moment at hand. Set aside your anxieties about next week's meeting or tomorrow's dental appointment. Spend your energy on the awareness of your breath, your muscles when you walk, the texture and smell of what you eat or drink. Listen intently to every conversation, without any expectations, without finishing anyone else's sentences, without preparing your rebuttal. Even everyday chores warrant your full focus, whether you're writing a dissertation or washing dishes.
Be aware of your surroundings. Notice the color of flowers, the scent of rain, even the gum on the sidewalk. Pay attention to what is happening at every moment, but don't fight what is. Accept that there is a long line at the post office, but don't let it upset you. After all, there's nothing you can do about it anyway. By simply accepting each moment as if you have chosen it, you'll be surprised at what the day has to offer you. Perhaps that time on the post office line will offer a moment of mediation, a lesson in patience, or an enjoyable session of people watching.
In addition to the everyday approach to being in the moment, the practice of yoga, tai chi, or meditation can help us learn to be more accepting of life as it unfolds. You'll find that by living in the moment, you'll be calmer, probably more productive, and most importantly, more content with life.
2006-09-17 00:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by k_ckuan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be selfish and self-centered. So he's not really thinking about you in those moments and if he is, he thinks he can afford to dismiss you until later.
Sometimes you have to find strength in your own center, put a smile on your face and check the room for one person to approach. After talking with them for a while, ask them to introduce you to someone else that you can try to find interesting. When he sees your back turned to him, he will become curious.
Try not to give away what your are thinking when this happens because it will make other people uncomfortable.
2006-09-17 00:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Reba K 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is this common for him? Is it possible that being at a funeral of a family member caused him to have a lack of etiquette? Talk to him before jumping to conclusions. There could be many possibilities.
2006-09-17 00:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he was too wrapped up in the death and seeing all of his realtives to think about you at the moment, or he felt that you were able to hold your own in a conversation with someone while he talked to people as well. Perhaps you should have gone over and introduced yourself.
2006-09-17 00:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by crowscraver 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a word from the wise honey child...
you best get that hubby of yours in check girl
leaving you behind for I dont care what reason is absolutely not acceptable under No circumstances...
ask him who taught him how to be rude? was it his mom? Get a rise outta him so he'll realize and correct his behavior... Yup thats what I do .... and lets just say my man knows best
2006-09-17 00:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's embarrassed by his family and he doesn't want you to think any less of him.
2006-09-17 00:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by 1/6,833,020,409 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably so, but the real question is: "Who is it that he is embarassed by, them or you?" That's the million dollar question that only he can answer.
2006-09-17 00:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would think I married an idiot , if i didn't already know it .
2006-09-17 02:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋