my fiance wants to sleep together every night. i work and go to school full time. i am always driving someone somewhere and doing things like bills, laundry and family stuff. Is it normal that he wants to have sex EVRY night and get mad if im tired?? and when i say im tired and he gets mad, he asks me to just get him off like w/ my hand.....and when we do end up doing it, halfway thru, he needs to turn me over to finish...why?!!? it hurts and i dont like it...i NEED advice and just an opinion on this all!! thanks!!!
2006-09-16 17:04:22 · 19 answers · asked by thatgirluknow 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no i dont mean anal-lol- just from behind like on my stomach n stuff.
2006-09-16 18:22:48 · update #1
i think most men are exactly like this and if you ask the women who answered this question I bet everyone of them dosent have sex every single night. I wouldn't say you two arent sexually compatiable when you do have sex its good right? Also the gay comment Crap!! Hes a man. men dont think with there brains if ya know what I mean. if you dont like doggy style talk about it tell him it hurts and he probably wont ask again because if he cares he wouldnt want to hurt you. I am pregnant now and my sex life has went down the tube. talk about things. Also maybe he could watch a porn or look at a magizine if your okay with that, Good Luck!!
2006-09-16 17:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His interest in having sex every night is not so surprising, but it's thoughtless for him to insist, especially when he knows you are really tired.
The thing that concerns me is that he "needs" to have sex in a way that you don't like and that hurts you. I have to assume you mean anal sex. That is not good sign--that he enjoys hurting you during sex. I would really think twice before marrying him. I think you need some pre-marital counseling. It could be he just is being selfish--but it could be worse than that. He could have some major issues with sex, and you don't need to have that in your life.
2006-09-16 18:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time now to do some soul searching. How will you feel about this in 5 years, 10 years and on down the road. If he is this way now it will only bother you more as time goes on - till you really resent him. It sounds as if you and him have different libido's. I would suggest some form of sexual counseling - but he needs to go also. Good Luck on a hard decision.
2006-09-16 17:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that there are any number of call girls that could "service" him in that capacity, but that you were under the impression that he wanted to marry a self respecting, real, everyday woman, that doesn't make a living on her back. See, the difference is, when one of those women say they're tired, they are tired of their life. When you say you are tired, you are tired like a wife. If he can not understand the difference, show him the door, and say goodnight.
2006-09-16 17:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by classyjazzcreations 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to consider calling off the wedding. If he is very active and you are not, this will always be a problem. You should not have to spend the rest of your life giving in and doing things you do not want to do, but he should have the right to find a woman as driven as he is, because he too is entitled to happy marriage. Think about what you are planning to do before you do it.
2006-09-16 17:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by 75160 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, If I where you I would suggest to my fiance that we seek some pre-marriage counseling. He seems to be trying hide something else. Get a copy D.L.(down low) Brother by J.L.king. He speaks about men who do not consider themselves to be Gay and they sleep with men (unprotected) and then feel the need to go home and sleep with their partners to prove top themselves they are straight. Get some help. Why does he have to have anal before he can come. Get yourself checked to and Good luck.
2006-09-16 17:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is really making you unhappy you need to have a serious talk with him. If he truly loves you he would understand. You shouldn't be force to do something you don't want to do especially if it hurts and makes you feel miserable.
Now do you mean anal sex when you said he turns you over? Because I had a friend who's boyfriend us to do that to her and it turned out he was bisexual. I hope this is not your case! I wish you luck and please let him know how you feel.
2006-09-16 17:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by M & M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex who couldn't finish unless we were doggy style and another who also thought if I was tired I could just service him with my hand. They are EXs for a reason now.
Tell him if you're tired you don't need to jack him off you need some sleep so he can hope for some future QUALITY sex. Honey, you can't do him if you're done in.
2006-09-16 17:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by anneboz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your fiancee is just thinking about his needs and not being considerate of all the thing you do during the day; just try talking to him. No offense but start looking elsewhere; you don't need to be treated that way. Peace
2006-09-16 17:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by phill322 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If both partners do not want to do it, it's called rape. Tell him that you have your boundaries and you will keep them. Stand up for yourself and do not allow him to dictate your life. If this is how it is before you are married, I would seriously reconsider getting married to this guy. He seems to have very little consideration for you and your feelings and even when you are in pain. This is very concerning to me. A huge red flag!
2006-09-16 17:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by oneradnursey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋