We still have seperate homes, but we have two children together.
2006-09-16 16:58:09 · 16 answers · asked by asprinfree_braindamage_please 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
move on darling. He's either not that into you or you are going different directions. IF you want marriage and he doesnt, time to get a new man. There are plenty of them out there. If you do go off on your own, he will either beg you back with a ring and a date for the wedding or he will let you go but be warned....-
He may try to use you for Booty call. If it is the latter, be glad that you moved on and dont look back.
2006-09-16 17:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by rdm7672 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to communicate better with this man you have been in a relationship with for 12 years. You have two children. You didn't mention love here. Is that in the picture? After 2 children you want him to act like you are a school girl and blush his way through a proposal?
You need to sit down and decide a number of things, beginning with why you need to go to a public forum to ask whether or not the relationship is work having. Good luck.
2006-09-17 00:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to put it to the test...my sister did this with her boyfriend of 10 years, basically telling him if he DIDN'T propose to her by such and such a date that she was through with him. He proposed and they've been married 12 years now with 3 kids. Maybe he just needs a little kick in the butt.
You have 2 kids with him? Hmmm...sounds like you two have gotten the cart before the horse.
2006-09-17 00:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by Hello Dolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... is the only reason you want to dump him is cause he hasn't asked you to marry him??
if so then i would not dump him...
if there are other problems then yes i would dump him
have you ever even talked about marriage and if you haven't then maybe he doesn't even know you want to marry him .... although i must say that you have been together 12 years and still don't live together THAT is rather strange ... makes me wonder
2006-09-17 00:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by sweetcharity2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!!! you live in seperate homes are you sure you're dating?? he's probably married, gay or has a girlfriend, I say move on from this loser!! he's never gonna ask unless you wanna wait til your 50. Why aren't you living together oh thats right he's probably living at home with his wife or gay lover and other children. MOVE ON honey...it's a waste of your time. find someone better.
2006-09-17 00:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by Alexikai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should not just "dump" him if you have two children together - remember, you are inevitably bonded for life regardless of whether you marry. Talk to him!
2006-09-17 00:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 years IS a marriage! It sounds like a commitment to me!
Geez, dump him for that?
Does he even know you want to get married?
And besides, you have agreed to this for twelve years -- dumping him would be grossly unfair.
2006-09-17 00:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the big deal, you love him and he apparently loves you. why does marriage have to get in the way with what you two have together. now i do agree that since the two of you have children together you both should be living under the same roof together. don't go and start throwing ulimatums at him, start slowly and try to convince him to share one house together.
2006-09-17 00:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by locowherto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay talk to me .. say you dump him .. the next guy you date how long will you date him before you want him to pop the question?? You know what mom, do this, get one of your kids, and tell them when they by dad, to ask him" Dad when you and mom getting married? Tell them ask him because we have to sit and weed out everything and get to the bottom of this.
Now this our GOAL .. we want your boyfriend to know you want to marry him and if he doesn't in the next year, let him know your ending the relationship. Let's watch and see what he does.
Now I know how it is, don't go up to him in his face and say that, maybe use those kids of yours to be a messager. Do it like this, when they home play like you talking to someone on the phone and say infront of your kids .. "I'm going to dumb my b/f if he doens't marry me in 1 year" and say that like 4 or 5 times and your kids hopefully it will sink in and PLEASE get them to dad that day, and if calculations right, they'll be playing with him, and they'll say "dad we heard mom say on the phone ... BAM!!! we in
He'll know everything, let's just see what he does
Email me tell me how it goes
2006-09-17 02:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by hhgdgdfg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Why won't he marry you? Why do you live apart? Why do you want to marry him? I don't think I could put up with that. It's that sorta thing where you ought to know by now. So sorry, good luck.
2006-09-17 00:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋