Been married for 11 years, left with children for mental abuse.
no communication walk over you like you not there, disrespect for all the time ask him what wrong doesn/t answer you and treat you like he doesn't know you and living in the same house. put furniture in storage so you wont and anyone won't sit on it because he bought it. don't want wife to drive his car and now I moved he moves near me and . he don't was a divorce but just want to live single but be marriage. explain tis situation if you can.
2006-09-16 16:54:49 · 17 answers · asked by babymadison61904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
have his cake and eat it to. You can do better, start dating!
2006-09-16 16:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I didn't know you knew my ex husband.
Anyway, I was where you are, and I left because of most of the same things. He turned into a stalker when I got the divorce, I had to serve him by publication. I put the divorce papers in his mailbox, (He had moved around the corner), and the next morning I would find them torn up on my car windshield. I ended up changing jobs and moving with the children to the other side of town. He'll get used to you really being gone after awhile. Problem is, he wants to have his cake, and eat it too. He can't have it both ways. Women with children only leave, when we are good and tired of the way
that we are being treated. Enough is enough. At least you had enough of your mind left to get out of a bad situation. Just think of what your kids would grow up thinking about how relationships are supposed to be like. You did it for your self respect, but in the process, you taught them a valuable life lesson on how people are supposed to be treated.
2006-09-17 00:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by classyjazzcreations 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think your husband doesn't know what he wants. He says one thing and does another. Have u two tried marriage counseling yet? If not, u might want to give that a try first before figuring out what u will do with your life and your children's because if there's mental abuse going on, it's not healty for the children to be in that kind of environment.
2006-09-17 00:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help FAST. Get away from this guy. He sounds mentally incompetent and scary. Find yourself a lawyer and get divorced SOON. Find out how far away you can legally move. You need to do so before you or the children become a statistic
2006-09-17 01:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard....your asking strangers, who don't live your life.....glad you have a resource to vent your fustration, but deep down inside you know what you have to do..You have a right to have happiness, without the drama!!!...You, have to toughen up, and do what is best for you and your children no matter what the ex expects...tough crap, be married but live single? ah, have your cake and eat it too? NO, that makes you a weak woman, and if your not with him, some other man would love to take advantage of you...You get a backbone, and do for YOU now!!....You will gain confidence you never knew you had!!..and let me tell you , you will come out ok, if you toughen up and take care of you FIRST!..we women never do that, well it is time some of us do when its needed!!!!....
2006-09-17 00:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes a jackass, seriously move out of state make him work for it , for treating you like crap unless he is a good father then stick around so he can see the kids , but why bother to be nice to someone like that, thats just a waste of time and effort and air!
2006-09-16 23:57:33 · answer #6 · answered by chemicalbrothers13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's protecting his monies. Seems he cherishes his hard earn money and believes you did nothing to deserves his fortunes - probably has a fear of being alone but hates being with or around ppl.
Sounds like a lot of traffic in the household he's trying to put a responsible stop to. why don't you try and meet him half way with finding a therapist for both of you and children (if any).
Sounds like he ignores you.
Sounds like he abandon you.
Sounds like you still cares, deeply and sadly---WAKE UP!!!
2006-09-17 00:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by NEMESIS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. If you cannot afford one, go to legal aid.
This guy sounds like he has more than a few screws loose and you need him legally gone and out of your life as quickly as possible, so you can get on with yours.
2006-09-17 00:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you explained it good enough. It seems like your husband wants to have his cake and eat it too. You did the right thing.
2006-09-16 23:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by Speaking_Up 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your life. Do what YOU want to do and do not be concerned with what he wants you to do. It sounds like you have spent too much time already trying to do as he wants and not following your own path.
2006-09-16 23:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by 75160 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a lawyer and file for divorce.
2006-09-17 00:02:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋