2 nights ago, I got into a huge fight with my best female friend of 6 years. We were talking about physical appearances and she asked me "if i were single and we werent best friends, would you be attracted me?"
I told her "honestly? Sorry but no, you're not my type".
She then asked "not your type? well what's wrong with me, am i ugly?". I responded: "no of course not but my ideal girl is in between 5'3"-5'9", is petite, has a small butt, narrow hips, thin and long legs, small-medium bust, dark hair, and light eyes."
She immediately responded: "well you have bad taste. not that i'm the most gorgeous girl in the world or that i want you to be attracted to me but the girl you described is ugly. tough luck finding a girl with your shallow and picky attitude". She hasn't talked to me since but she got her boyfriend to insult me and a few of her friends to insult me.
now alot of my friends are being weird and agreeing with her saying i have bad taste. WTF???
2006-09-16 16:53:41 · 17 answers · asked by Dylan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i asked my friend why she got so mad and she said "i dont want to be friends with such a shallow person, sorry. go find your dream girl. perhaps you can find a petite 10 yr old girl and give her breast implants...that sounds like your ideal girl. cover her in makeup while youre at it."
2006-09-16 17:06:05 · update #1
No... you don't have bad taste just bad judgement. You fell right into that trap. She was insulted and jealous and her friends are merely supporting her cuz you hurt her feelings...justifiablly so...you've been friends for how many years? Bad move my man, bad move. Learn from this experience.
2006-09-16 16:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you said it in a way that is offensive without you even realizing it or she interpreted what you said the wrong way?Or maybe she lied about what you said to your friends and that is why they are acting like that. Either way, she asked and you answered. I can only see being mad at you apporpriate if you were insulting in your answer, but from what you said I don't find anything wrong.
Eh. Everyone has different tastes. There's nothing wrong if you're more attracted by that type of female as apposed to other sorts. I'm sure your gal friend wouldnt' date just any sort of person that came up to her, so why should you?
She's just being bitter. Try to talk to her after the dust has settled a little bit if you still wish to continue your friendship. If not, or if she is still acing like that, then forget her. You don't need some sour and bitter girl in your life.
2006-09-17 00:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by Nixxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person has the right to choose for himself and everyone should respect that right no matter how it goes.
Your best female friend might not really mean it when she said that you have bad taste. Perhaps, it was just her way to retalitate for the humiliation that she got from you when you said that she was not your type. Remember the word "ego" or "pride"? You must have hurt her pride when you told her that. In short, you were a little tactless during that time because you could have imparted to her what you wanted to tell her without your using that negative statement "You are not my type.".
Remember the art of human relations? Using the right words at the right time and place. You have to strictly observe this rule to avoid offending others along the way.
I must say that you owe her an apology. After that, ask her to forget all about it and move on with your continuing friendship filled with love and respect for each other. Good luck.
2006-09-17 00:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did was really rude, shallow, and immature. You just showed her your true color. You showed her that you are nothing but a shallow man with high expectations.
I doubt she likes you as others said. I will tell you from alot of experience that all women are hormonal and hard to understand. All women want to feel beautiful. All women love compliments.
The way you responded to her was so harsh.
It's alright to have personal preferences but you should give more options. the description of your ideal lady is so brief. not many women fit that exact description. you should give a REASONABLE description which more ladies can fit, also you should include PERSONALITY in that description.
Yes so you may find your ideal lady but what if she's stupid, boring, annoying, bratty, etc...?
you totally screwed up, man. you proved to your friend what a bad person you are. maybe she's too good for you.
anyway, tough luck with your ideal woman.
Have you ever thought about your own physical appearance? You probably won't be any good with the ladies if you find so many flaws in them all. what makes you so sure that they'll be attracted to you?
you must be very insecure
well i wouldnt expect much from a fellow like you anyway. your just another one of those boys who are into fake looking b*tchez.
yes yes you know what im sayin... those anorexic thin b*tchez with no real curves and fake breasts.
2006-09-17 01:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are entitled to your own preferences and I don't think you said anything to warrant her anger! I do think that she set you up with that question. She didn't want your honest answer, she wanted to hear that she's the most beautiful woman in the world and that yes, you would be attracted to her.
The fact of the matter is, if you had said that, it would have been a lie and her boyfriend may have gotten angry with you. So you told the truth and now she, her boyfriend and all of your friends are angry with you. You couldn't win, no matter what you said.
From now on, if a woman asks a question like that and you think it may be a no-win question, answer it with a question, such as "Why do you want to know?", "Is it really important?" or just say, "I'm not into hypothetical situations." I'm sorry you had to learn about the infamous trick question in such a way, though.
2006-09-17 00:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay that is the most f*cked up thing i have heard. She has no right doing that!! And her EVEN ASKING that question to you is showing that SHE LIKES YOU, FULL STOP. no matter what she says, i know this way of talking when girls do that. And her violent reaction proves she was hurt cos shes not your type!!
You shouldnt worry. What you described is good taste according to me, tho she should be UNDER 5ft8 since i am 5ft9 only. hehe. But seriously dont beat yourself about it. I cant believe even your friends are acting weird about this, but sounds like they never were your friends anyway!
Best thing to do, never say youd not be attracted to a girl, whether a friend, a wife or ANYTHING. Girls can never handle it, no matter how they wanna show it, unless they are disturbed. I guess im generalising to an extent, but i am speaking from my own experience, and its shocking how true it, cos i always believed in honest replies relating to this matter.
2006-09-17 00:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by DudeWantsAnswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She asked your opinion and you gave it, and you are certainly entitled to your opinion! I say it's her problem. She shouldn't ask questions if she can't handle the answers! Stick to your guns.
And for what its worth, my ideal guy would have long dark hair and brown eyes, but my soul mate turned out to be a blue-eyed blonde :) So even though you have a preference in looks, you could meet someone else who looks totally different and just click with them.
2006-09-16 23:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by lillith6662000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She asked, you answered. She has the issues. You were just being honest. Let her know that the next time you'll remember that she wants you to lie to her. Find a better group of friends.
2006-09-16 23:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by oneradnursey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think from her point of view. You may have insulted her. Hey wait, I am just like the girl you described! I am not ugly in any sort! She is just thinking from a different point of view. It sounds like from her point of view, she is kind of insulted.. I would be hurt if you said that to me.
2006-09-16 23:58:25 · answer #9 · answered by Valkyrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's just bitter and insulted that you don't find her attractive. You're totally allowed to have your own personal prefernces, and you shouldn't let other people's opinions bother you.
2006-09-16 23:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by chd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋