my parents r divorced and today my dad called me about 545 and asked me if i wanted to go to an ice cream social with him and my step mom and i was supposed to call my bf at 7 but i couldnt cuz i would be at the ice cream thing so i called him when i was in the car with my dad saying that i couldnt call him tonite becuz id be gone...im 15 and me and my bf have been datin for about 11.5 months but he said he was looking forward talkin to me but he couldnt...i never see my dad becuz hes busy working with his business and he bearly knows anything about me...my bf said he was looking forward to talking to me and kinda sighed in that voice if u get what im saying...he made me feel really bad...i mean i do want to spend time with my dad but then again i dont becuz hes a jackass...wat should i have done??? gone or just stayed home to talk to my bf?
2006-09-16 16:48:29 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your boyfriend should understand that you don't really talk or hang out with your dad that much. you did the right thing cuz you can always talk and see your boyfriend unlike your dad cuz he's always busy(even if he's jackass).just chill your boyfriend will get over it if he's upset and don't feel bad cuz at least you called to tell him your situation instead of leaving him waiting for a call. just don't worry about it!
2006-09-16 16:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by GigglesGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say that your dad is a jackass, what exactly do you mean? If he is abusive, then I would stay away from him. If he's just being a "dad," then I think you should be a little more tolerant and take advantage of every opportunity to see him.
As far as your boyfriend is concerned, I think it's sweet that he was looking forward to seeing you and all, but your dad should be a priority (as long as your visits with him are healthy (meaning that your dad doesn't treat you badly). You are very young and it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Don't start allowing any boyfriend(s) dictate your decision making.
2006-09-17 00:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jody B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you don't really get to spend much time with your dad, it's good that you went. Your boyfriend should understand that and not try to make you feel bad for spending time with your family.I'm sure there will be plenty of times in the future that you can talk to your boyfriend. Family is more important though, even though you said your dad can be a real *** sometimes.
2006-09-16 23:51:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy_Fir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on you, what do you think about family? Even though your parents are divorced, i mean family is family and your bf should be more respectful of that. For me you should put everything on a balance and you'll see that your dad is more worth it than this guy who doesn't understand what family is. So, think about it, like I said weigh everything before actually taking a decision and then you give me your opinion.
2006-09-16 23:58:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing going to ice cream with your dad. Your boyfriend needs to realize that your family is important to you and that it was very special for you to spend time with your father. Ask him to see your point of view and don't back down if he is still salty about it. He is being selfish. He is not the only one you love and you need the love of your family to get you through life.
2006-09-16 23:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Tho he is a jackass, he is still your father, your BF should understand that. Don't worry to much, and do something special to make up for it. Take a walk at a lake with a picnic or something that kids do nowa days. But you did nothing wrong at all. Good luck.
2006-09-16 23:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by gin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying your dad is a jackass or your bf. You did right to spend the time with your dad. He will always be your dad and it's too bad your bf doesn't realize that.
2006-09-16 23:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by Speaking_Up 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spend time with your dad, if your bf really cares about you then he'll know its important to you and that will make him happy for you..not wanting to make you feel bad. His reaction is selfish and about HIM, not you and if its love it can't be selfish too, they just don't go together. Tell him something like this...you know how important it is to me and that i never get to see my dad, if you were any kind of bf you would be happy for me. Maybe he'll get the message. Boyfriends WILL come and go (trust me) but you only get one dad.
2006-09-16 23:51:20 · answer #8 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi dear,no need to worry about that dad,always be dad,actually in this time u need a good friend or lover to share,share can decrease ur doughts and increase confidence,dont let them know that u r negatives(seekin for someone like that),they always tried to take a chance.u cant understand vat they r showing to u (love,sorry).maintain individuality thats makes u different from others.be careful,some how bf is future,think about future,think about better future.BYE DEAR.sorry if i told u anything wrong.
2006-09-17 00:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by arkay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing by going with your dad. he needs to get over it and understand what you were doing was important to you. just let him know that you understand that he was really looking forward to talking to you, but that it would have to wait until later. let him know you are sorry for letting him down, but you are busy spending time with your father at the moment and would hope that he would understand...
2006-09-16 23:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by locowherto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋