And Why (besides children)? How many of you who have been divorced HATE your ex for leaving you and would love to see them burning in Hell for leaving you?
2006-09-16 16:42:20 · 15 answers · asked by zelgadiss 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is sad but yes, I wish a daily hell on earth to my ex almost every day. Something like a disfiguring illness, or a painful STD that is incurable...We were married for almost 20 years, and unfortunately the divorce created a huge amount of hatred and anger on both sides. I try so very hard to be civil and say positive things about their deadbeat dad to the kids, but it is something I struggle with each day.
I pray I will be able to forgive and forget someday, as I did spend almost 1/2 my life with this man. But for now, I will take 5 minutes of not thinking of ways he could live out the rest of his life in misery. It is time and energy that should be channeled towards my wonderful children, and the terrific life I have ahead of me.
I hear your pain--you are not alone. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-09-16 17:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by little1missy1234 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Been divorced now for 12 years and talk to her (and her husband) at least weekly. My wife and her talk also and we all have a good relationship. The first year we had several disagreements and fought with her and ex-inlaws, but we all got past that. I am still close to her brothers and even visit her mother occasionally. When my mother remarried, my ex and her husband came to the wedding. The way we looked at it is that we might as well get along because we are going to have to see each other for MANY more years to come because of my daughter. It is VERY hard on the kids and puts them in a position where they shouldn't have to be when the parents fight. I don't know your situation, but if there are kids involved, then get past your feelings of hate and move on. If NO kids are involved, then you really have no reason or ties to that person so just put it all behind you for the sake of personal peace and stay away from them.
2006-09-17 00:12:00 · answer #2 · answered by dooder 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I talk to my x only when it has to do with anything reguarding the kids..(and we are very civil) he use to try and call and talk to me like i was his best friend, but i put a stop to that, as the friendship ended the moment he walked out for another woman.. I hate my x husband for the fact that i gave up everything for him, my college education, my youth (since we had children young ive spent all of my adult life being a full time mom not that i regret my children, but he got to just walk out with out and continue life as if he never had children) although i made the choice to give it up, he didnt care that i did.. and i hate him the most for neglecting our children over the years.. out of the 10 years we've been divorced he calls them once every 4 to 6 months, and has only seen them maybe 10 times in 10 years and only 2 times in the last 6.. and im the one that has to attempt to console 2 children that cant understand why their dad doesnt love them enough to be a part of their lives yet he can for his 2 new children.. Do i wish he'd burn in hell.. No.. i dont wish that upon him.. but i would love it if he found hell on earth and had his heart and soul ripped out of his chest like he's done to me and our children..
2006-09-17 00:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT DEPENDS ON HOW YOU DIVORCE - if you MEDIATE at the outset before getting into litigation and have a GREAT MEDIATOR like MelanieMediator, then you stand a good chance of coming out of your marriage with resolution and a better understanding of the positive aspects of your divorce. YOU ARE MORE LIKEY niot to hate your ex and more likely able to communicate with him/her. Bottom line, you should all stop putting your hate for each other above the needs and interests of your kids, you should get along and coparenting is essential for kids.
2006-09-17 01:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by meldorhan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never talk to my ex. He hasn't seen his son in 4 years. He only lives 30 minutes away! He talks to him maybe once or twice a year for 5 minutes at a time.
I can honestly say I HATE him. Not for leaving me. I left him. I hate him for what he did to me while we were married.
Everytime the news says they found an unidentified body, I pray it's him. He is the only person that I wouldn't care about if he died.
2006-09-16 23:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by danadeville 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I only talk to mine when I call to talk to my children. But it's amicable. The last two years, or more, of our marriage was miserable, we were always at each other's throats. Now we can talk without wanting to kill each other. She's remarried, and happy, and he treats my children well. That's good enough for me. I went through the burn in hell stage(especially when she had my car repossessed.) But I got over it. (Now if my credit report would just get over it.....)
2006-09-17 00:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by devlish_blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce does not have to mean hate. I still talk to my ex from time to time. We did not divorce because we hated each other; we just wanted to go different directions and our priorities were very different. We talk about careers, mutual friends and even other (current) relationships at times.
2006-09-16 23:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by 75160 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When my ex had custody of the kids she treated me like I was dipped in sh*t. When I got custody she got a whole new attitude(imagine that). I don't think much of her but I do treat her with respect. When we talk its about the kids and its done in a civil tone. Its good to have the hammer!
2006-09-17 00:24:36 · answer #8 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got a divorce because he would come home and compare me to strippers, we got past that because I told him if thats what he thought he would never see his kids again. We went to consueling and we are 2 of the most happy loving couples around today. We just took our 3rd honeymoon with all of our children and grandchildren with us
2006-09-17 02:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I still talk to my ex hubsand and we have no kids together we realized that we are better off as friends then being together and who needs to carry hate in your heart forget that I rather carry hope and love in me always
2006-09-17 00:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋