I want a boob job but my husband is against it. Should I or should I not?

Answer 1

I work for a plastic surgeon and I see alot of complications from breast implants including infection, asymmetry, skin stretching, the "rock-in-the-sock" deformity (just think about that one), and really any kind of complication the doctor mentions happens more often than you realize. But the main thing that no one ever seems to realize is that the implants themselves only have a life span of about 20 years and they ALL will leak eventually, so if you get them in your 20s you will have to have them replaced in your 40s, 60s, 80s, etc. or else you will have to simply have them removed and then have deformed breasts the rest of your life. Plus even if you are healthy at 20 and everything goes well will you be as healthy or have the same "great doctor" at 40? Or at 60?

Be thankful with what you have and if you want a little more - buy a padded bra. It would be much cheaper and a whole lot less painful with alot less problems in the long run.

Oh, and one other thing - alot of women have back pain, neck pain, shoulder pain, and grooves in the shoulders along with many other problems from breasts that are too heavy. You may be trading comfortable boobies for ones that will cause you pain and suffering in the long run. Think long and hard before you make this decision. I wouldn't advise it.

Answer 2

I just answered a question about what is marriage. In brief I believe a lot of marriages turn into a possession type thing where our own feelings are not acknowldged.

If it makes you happy, then have a boob job....that is of course if you can afford it, and if its a money thing, then yes, two people need to be involved. But if its not a money thing, then you have every right to make a decision about your own body yourself. Marriage doesnt give anyone the right to take away a persons choices. You can talk about it sure, I think every couple should talk about everything, but when one person gets their own way, even though it is not what the other person wants then I think that is pretty unhealthy. It says to me that one person in this relationship holds the power. In every relationship it should be total equality. If you are being told you cannot do something that is quite reasonable and you bow down to what the other person wants then its not equal.

Answer 3

I think that if I wanted a boob job, my husband would be against it, out of concern of my future health.

I don't need bigger boobs, do you? I mean, do you neeeeed them? Is it something you've always dreamed of?

I first thought that I would say 'it's your body' and I know a lot of people did. But then I tried a role reversal. How would I feel if my husband wanted a penile enlargement? Well, I'd be worried about the future issue of his health, terribly concerned over why he feels inadequate, and I like things the way they are. Think some more. Try to determine what your risks are, what he is thinking about.

Answer 4

I am wondering how long you have been married. I was married for 31 yrs and my ex wanted a boob job. She was a small B cup and I liked it that way and it was something I was comfortable with. I argued with her for over 3 months and finally gave in. One of the reasons that she had was that she wanted to look better at her job. I mean what the hell, she was a night auditor at the Ramada Inn and she hardly ever had customers after llpm when she went to work. Besides when I look at a woman I want to look into their eyes, not their breasts. She really went overboard and got really large ones and I had the hardest time trying to get used to them. It was like there was totally another woman. We divorced about 6mos later. Not all was with the boobs, but it had a strong bearing on it. Just be sure your hubby is ready for something that does not feel natural and that he is a 100% agreeable.

Answer 5

he married you with the boobs you already have didn't he. He didn;t marry you for your boobs. But I do know what you mean about getting them. Certain clothes look really nice with a set of boobs, and with out the boobs those clothes just don't look the same. I think the V. secrets have warped the thoughts of many women and what looks good when it comes to fashions, not to mention more than half of them are air brushed Eeeh I went through that to, not sure i want to put something fake in my body there is stil to much unknown about them, they deflate after awhile and will sag big time when your older. If he's ok with you how you are and isn't crazy abou the idea I'd kind of really ponder it a bit longer.

Answer 6

It is your body. Do what you want, but first find out why he is opposed to it. Opne lines of communication are very important in the small and big things in a relationship.

Once you talk you might decide to not have the boob job or he might be okay with you getting the boob job.

I think he might be a little insecure and thin that you might leave him once you get the boob job and the attention that may come with it.

Please talk with him not to him.

Answer 7

Your husband may be fearful that you will attract other men and that you may leave him for another man. I think if you get the boob job against your husbands wishes, you will argue over his jealous comments. If you are not prepared to argue over your boob job with your husband, then don't get it done. If you care less what he thinks or feels, go for it. Or if you think you can persuade your husband that he is the only man for you, get the boob job done.

Answer 8

I think it's cool for you to want a boob job, but the only person you should be trying to impress is your husband. If he is okay with the size of your boobs then you should be fine with them too.

Answer 9

My husband said no to me too. But after nursing 4 kids, mine went away and left me with nothing. I got to where I did not want him to even look at me without a bra on. That is no way to be. I was so unhappy. I called and got all kinds of info and I told him one night how unhappy I was. He then said of course I did not need them, but I could since I was so unhappy. I did it for me and that has been 3 years ago and that is the best thing I have ever done for myself. If you are not happy, how can you make anyone else happy?

Answer 10

Boob jobs are expensive and painful! If your husband is happy with your boobs, then don't worry about it. Save the money, you might need a face lift, butt lift, tummy tuck, or something else later.