What is marriage?

Question

What do you gain from marriage? Why did you ever marry?

Answer 1

In the most ideal terms, marriage is a partership formed by mutual trust, love and respect. (And sex. Can't forget the sex.) I married because I found someone I love more than anyone else in the world who shares that trust and respect with me. It has not always been easy--like any partnership, we have our arguments and fights, but always end up better afterwards. I have never regretted my decision.

Answer 2

We marry for all different reasons, but I think the main one is because we need to share our lives with the person we love. We want to have children together, we want to share everything. Unfortunetly though, a lot of people see marriage as the contract to end all contracts where it gives you the right to own your partner, mind body and soul.

What I personally got out of marriage was I learnt about what makes me really happy. I learnt that a contract cannot make two people happy if they are not prepared to respect and love each another enough. I learnt that a marriage is supposed to be an equal relationship, but more often than not one party is more dominant that the other. I learnt that the Marriage Contract should be a renewable one where neither party starts taking the other one for granted, that they will be a little more respectful of the person because it could end at any time when the contract comes up for renewal.

That sounds all pretty negative, but that is only based on my experiences. There are some wonderful marriage that contain everything that was lacking in my own.....but they are very few and far between. I believe it can happen, but that usually only comes when you are older and you really know what makes you happy.

Like I said the reasons people marry are wide and varied. A friend of mine married his wife because she was pregnant...he only realises that he never really loved her. He married her out of responsibility and guilt...He did what everyone expected him to do....so his reason is totally different to someone elses reason to get married.

I think all you have to look at is the divorce rate to understand that people get married for a lot of reasons and its only after they married do they realise it was not meant to be. We are not psychics, we dont know what the future holds...All relationships have risk involved because the coming together of two different human beings and co-habitating together is really only guesswork in the beginning because you just love someone and hope it works out. It is only when you actually live with someone do you start to see the differences.

Answer 3

Marriage is a covenant entered into by a man and a woman. It is a commitment that is sacred by the bonds of love and blessings of God who is the Creator of man, woman, and covenants. It is a lifetime opportunity to give unconditional to the one you are in love with. Marriage is a lifelong journey of love, good and bad, sickness, health, richness, poorness, successes, failures, endurance, and hardships, and just life with the security and company of the one person you know you can trust. ( And there's a difference between someone disappointing you and breaking your trust.)

You gain from marriage love, respect, honor, peace, humility, strength, compassion, pureness, and security, success, acceptance, if you are willing to learn how to do marriage right.

I married because I love my husband, and because we want to do life together. It's not easy but it's worth the journey.

Love is never the issue, it's learning how to do life together that is.

Answer 4

The only good thing that came out of my marriage is my son. Why did I marry? I still don't know. I thought I loved him. He told me he loved me.
I will never marry again. It was way too easy to get married. And so much trouble to get the divorce. Just don't get married, it's easier to leave that way.

Answer 5

Marriage is a bed of roses with invisible thorns... in the beginning! Just that the thorns tend to grow very slowly into your spine as the years go by ...... this should say it all. But if u can accept/tolerate the thorns without giving some back to yr spouse ...... the bed of roses may b great inspite of ...

Answer 6

i think the only thing you gain from marraige is your mates health insurance if their employeed marraige is like the beginning of the end because it seems like once that paper comes into play the other person starts to get more controling and those things you used to do every weekend suddenly arent suppossed to matter to u anymore i.e. basketball with the fellas or going out with the girl its like the ring makes the person more insecure or something thats whth i like my relationship the way it is we dont need a piece of paper to show how much we love each other we express that everyday anyway

Answer 7

You gain a Judge, a couple of lawyers, The loss of half of what you got and a house if you have one. O and the opportunity to give her money every month how about isn't that great

Answer 8

Marriage is the uniting of a man and a woman by God or law until death separates them... Although, in America, it seems they are united until death or divorce separates them - whichever comes first (usually divorce)...
I married to have someone to love and to be loved by and to have children to love and to be loved by...
I miss having a relationship with a wife...

Answer 9

I dont feel you gain anything from marriage...I married cause I got preg and it was my moms belief to marry then.

Answer 10

What i gained? My 2 kids... a sense of direction in life with regards to my career. Esp in the last 2 years, I learnt to be less of a nag, give each other space and privacy and found myself again.

Why? Coz i loved him and knew that he would be someone i could love forever literally.