I have a crush on a gay guy..he found out I liked him and he confronted me about it and we decided to be friends..he said it would be ok if we hung out sometime( like a movie or something) so I asked him when we can go and he said he's busy but he' ll see when we can go..that was a week ago..I asked him tonight and he still didn't check..I told him that i feel like I am thew only one that wants to be friends and he said it's not that he doesn't want to be friends, he's just busy.. I don't want to chase him away by constantly asking him and I don't want to make him mad at me, but I REALLY WANT TO GO!! I want to go soo bad! what should I do??
2006-09-16 16:26:01 · 19 answers · asked by confusedgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
We agreed that if we went out, it wouldn't be a date...and that's fine with me, however, we only see each other at work, so we only know what each other is like at work, so I would like to get to know him a little better outside of work.. That's why i really want to go!!
2006-09-16 16:29:20 · update #1
He wants to be friends but not hang out with you. Go out with other friends because he is just not into you!
2006-09-16 16:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Manera 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How desperate can you really be? You're setting yourself up to be hurt in all the obvious ways. The energy you're investing in running after a person that does not want to be friends outside of work with you can be spent on getting yourself some other friends.
2006-09-16 16:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by solgiver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like you but now I just forgot about him and I think it's because the time.. try to do something else to keep you busy and then you will forget about him cos if he doesn't care or dont even try to find the time for you then.. dont bother and especially he's gay as well, find someone else, you're wasting your time with him.
2006-09-16 16:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Oww 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to lay off. I know you have a crush on him, but he's clearly and obviously not going to be interested the way you are.
You might be making him feel awkward, because he KNOWS you like him in a way he doesn't. Seriously hunni, dont chase him anymore....he's gay....come on.
If he opens up and wants to chill then that's cool, but don't push it on him.
2006-09-16 16:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved with a co-worker! I don't care how wonderful he seems to be at this moment.
He sounds as though he really doesn't want to go out with you. It is extremely obvious that you already view this non-relationship as more than it is and you need to stop.
You are coming across as possessive and obsessive and you are probably scaring the crap out of him - sure would me!
2006-09-16 16:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless u r a gay guy forget him. he knows what u want and he knows he cant give it to u. y r u following a shodow it leads to no where!!!!!!!
come back to reality and just date guys who like woman so that u know there is somethig there, with this guy u will never have anything more than a good girl friend
2006-09-16 16:29:59 · answer #6 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really being a pest. You are going to push him away constantly worrying him. It's like you are trying to force yourself on him. If he don't want to hang out with you, so what move on.
2006-09-16 16:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_sensitivelady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time if you really want something be paient. good thing come to those who wait. i promise. maybe he is telling you the truth and he is really busy. or maybe he is testing you to see how far you will go. if you dont try so hard he will not feel presured into going out with you and he will do it willingly and he will feel better about it and so will you. i promise
2006-09-16 16:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You first need to admit to yourself that you are not going to have a chance with him. Once you do that and treat him as your friend, he should want to hang out with you more. Stop obsessing over him, and let him decide when he wants to hang out.
2006-09-16 16:30:00 · answer #9 · answered by cute_mami_alwayz23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me except he wasn't gay, then I just knew he wasn't interested in going. don't worry about chasing him, wait a while and ask him again and try to meet someone else to like.
2006-09-16 16:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by celinuchis90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋