I have a question? This is for the ladies. My girlfriend and I have been living together almost four months. I found out she had sex a few times with a friend of hers after she moved in with me. She is now pregnant, but we don’t know who the babies daddy is, me or the man she was cheating on me with. And no there was no infidelity or abuse on my part to make her do it. Now the guy (and his mother calls to try and get here to leave me and be with her son) calls her on our phone when im not here, to see how she doing and to see if she needs anything. My girlfriend thinks its ok for this guy to call, it means he cares about the baby and if she stopped him from calling he want anything to do with the baby or at best he wont want to cooperate with her when it comes to the baby, if its his…..what do I think, h@ll no. don’t call here. Call him only if the baby ends up being his, I’m feed up……so ladies tell me what you think.
2006-09-16 16:05:55 · 20 answers · asked by jj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
do you think ist ok for him to be calling her
2006-09-16 17:17:04 · update #1
get a blood test to see whos it is
2006-09-16 16:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by Nav 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww I'm sorry to hear that you're in a situation like that. Best thing I can say is get a blood test as soon as the baby's born. I feel that if she is with you and still your girlfriend and living with you then she should respect the fact that your her man. It's not a good ide for him to be contacting her and things like that cuz what happens if the babies yours? Then he's just been interfering with your relationship for the enitre pregnancy. Don't let him ruin what you and her have and if you love her then you might want to think of being with her regardless if you're the father or not. Let her know that you'll be there now and after if that's how you feel, where as the other man only wants to be there if he is the father. Be supportive but don't let her take advantage of you and walk all over u, Dats not fair to you.
2016-03-27 04:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to talk to your girl and find out if the two of you are still going to be together if the baby isn't yours. if she says yes, then she needs to talk to the other guy and his mother and tell them to back off a little. You can get a paternity test while she is still pregnant if you want to find out before she actually has the baby. But I think that you seriously need to reconsider your relationship with her. If she is actually able to cheat on you, especially without protecting herself or you for that matter, then maybe you need to move on. How do you know that this is the only guy. And what about after she has the baby. It doesn't sound like she has very much respect for you or your relationship. Good luck
2006-09-16 16:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I most certainly do not think it is okay for the guy that she was cheating with to be calling up, even if the baby could be his! You have the patience of Job if you are putting up with this! Get a paternity test to settle the issue right away.
If it turns out to be yours, tell the other guy to get lost. If she keeps on seeing him, there's a big problem and I think it's hers. In that case, keep contact with your child, but don't stay with her. If it's his, I really don't see the relationship working out. In that case, it would be best to cut your losses and move on.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. You sound like a good guy who doesn't deserve what she's done to you. I hope that the baby is yours and that the other guy gets the hint and stays away. Best of luck to you!
2006-09-16 16:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out "who's the daddy"-test can be done very early w/ very little danger to mom and baby to be-then take it from there-you may want to cut ties if your not the father-start fresh w/ someone new-or if you do intend to make it work w/ her-set up visitations rights for the bio. father- do all this before the baby is born-so that little one can come into the world w/ at least knowing who he/she is-if you think it does not matter because-he/she is only a baby your wrong-they sense alot of bad sh-t excuse my french-so if you care about this baby -you will do th right thing and settle it now-good luck to you
2006-09-16 16:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totaly agree with you and I'd even tell you to leave her except for the fact that it would leave what could possibly your baby with her. If a woman doesn't put a man's name on the birth certificate no man can have rights to the child. Wait it out till she gives birth and then make your decisions, but if she wants to be with you the other guy shouldn't be in the picture. I hope she's also paying rent...and that things go your way wether you're wishing the child is yours or his.
2006-09-16 16:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I looked into your past questions and my lord this woman is taking you for a ride! She is very immature and dose not love you. If this baby is yours he or she dose not need to be around this kind of relationship. It is not healthy. You need someone that respects you and wants to work as a team together to have a good life for your family. Now that this man and his family want to take her in it would be a good time to let her go. She will be fine she is very smart and can play them for a wile until the baby is born then DNA test. Please fine someone that appreciates your generosity and love and dose not walk all over you. Women know a snake from a mile away, she is slithering!
2006-09-16 16:17:08 · answer #7 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get away from this woman as fast as you can. She thinks it's "ok" to be in contact with another man she had sex with because he *might* be the father? And you're supposed to just stand by twiddling your thumbs? I don't think so. Move out. After the baby is born find out if it's yours. If it is, plan on being a father for the rest of your life (a good father)!!
2006-09-16 16:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like her sleeping with him was not such an accident. If she allows him to call and his mother to call then she is still interested in them being in her life and there is little you can do to change this. Get a DNA. If the baby is not yours she will probably leave you to be with the other man. If it yours that doesn't mean that she will be faithful. She's an idiot.
2006-09-16 16:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seriously deserve better. Find out whose the baby is, and leave if it's not yours. (Although I would leave no matter what because there is no excuse for cheating). You can still be involved with the baby without being with the mother. It is not ok for him to be calling. It's like she's trying to have the both of you. Please leave for your sake and find someone who loves and cherishes you, who wouldn't even consider doing any of what your current girlfriend has done.
2006-09-16 16:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by alysseq_86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's messed up. I feel bad for the baby to be getting a mommy like that. You will diffently need a paternity test done. Get out, stay away for sometime like weeks months and gather your thoughts.
2006-09-16 16:17:17 · answer #11 · answered by creature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋