how old is to old to have children?

Question

and why do you feel this way, it could be from personal experiences or your opinion

Answer 1

I made a conscious decision not to have children past 35 (I am 38 now and had my two kids when I was 26 and 28 repsectively). My feelings on the subject are based purely on my personal experiences having older parents. My mother was 43 when I was born, my father 45. Not that big an issue now, but in 68 it was definitely not the norm! I have 5 older siblings, the youngest of which was 13 when I was born. I spent most of my elementary school years confused as to why everyone thought my parents were my grandparents. As I got older and could understand the reasoning, I started to worry that my parents would die. Sadly, my father passed away one month prior to my HS graduation. My mother passed away 2 yrs later. I went from the fear of the loss to the intense pain of losing my parents before I had been able to establish much of a life of my own. I am extremely close to my siblings, but they have a hard time understanding why I still grieve when things like my daughter's first part in a play came along or my son competes in Special Olympics. You see, my sibs kids knew their grandparents..mine never did.

Aside from that, I definitely believe using fertility treatments to become pregnant after going through menopause is wrong. Once your body has passed naturally through the time it can reproduce, I feel using medicine to enable it is asking for more issues.

Answer 2

I am a married 26 year old mother of two. My son is 18 months and my daughter is 7 1/2 months. I plan to have another baby when I'm 31 years old.
My mother had me when she was 37 years old. I love my mother to death but I always hated having an older parent. All the other kids had young parents and my mom was always a lot older. It was hard on me. When your an older parent you don't tend to take your kids places like camping, to the water parks, to the ocean, and other places. I am the youngest of four. My siblings got to do so much more than me, to experience so much more. They did all the things I would have loved to have done with my mother. I missed out.
So in my opinion you shouldn't have a child after the age of 34.
There was a boy in all my classes growing up that had an older mother like me and he felt the exact same way.
A women may want to have a baby when she is older but she should also think about how it will make the child feel while in school.

Answer 3

My personal opinion is between 21 and 30. I am almost 24 and preg with number 2. had my first when I was almost 22. My mom was 19 when she had me. I just look at the future. I will still be young when they go off to college and I will be able to see them marry and have children of their own. my friends mom was 62 at her graduation. that does not give her much time. There really is no RIGHT age... just people's opinions. I think you cant be too old but you can be too young. if you cant work a full time job and pay for your own rent, bills, and food you have no business having children. Too many young girls have to rely on their parents and the state to raise their babies. I can go on all day....

Answer 4

Well.... the doctors say that once you hit about 40 it isn't as safe to have children as it was when you were younger. For one thing the baby has a much higher risk of being born with down syndrome or some other type of birth defects. The older you are the higher the risk. This is a fact. Just because you can still get pregnant doesn't mean that it is still safe for you or your baby.

Answer 5

You can have a baby as long as you produce eggs.

In my opinon woman and men who reach a certain age around 40 should be through. My reasons on these thoughts are.... your health starts to deteriate (maybe not that noticable but starts). A child born at this age will need your care untill 58. So if your 45 and have a child you will be in your 60's. To me this isn't fair to a child growing up. Their parents are now grandparent ages. They may not be able to do the same thing a younger parent can do.

Answer 6

That depends on the person having the children. I was 32 when I had my daughter and it didn't hurt either one of us. I would never want children past 40 but that is my opinion for myself. I know several women who were in the 40s and a couple in their 50s having children...

Answer 7

It depends if your a male or female. I say, I wouldnt take the risk after 40. There is a 1 in 50 chance that you will have a down syndrome baby. if you are the one carrying the baby

For males in their 50's they put their children at risk for schizaprenia

if you are past 35 you are considered high risk not only to yourself but to the baby. at 35 if you are obese, and have a bmi of 30 or more you are at risk of over 30 medical conditions. at least loose weight first.

Now if your 45 and pregnant already then its not too old to have a baby. killing a baby for any reason is murder.

Answer 8

It all depends on you're health. Some say late 40's is pushing it. But there has been at least 10 medically documented cases of the mother being over 50 and 3 cases of the mother being over 60!! Naughty Naughty grandma!!

Answer 9

My personal opinion is 40. Why?
1) your chances of complications with the pregnancy and birth start climbing at 35 (every year thereafter, the odds become greater for a number of things).
2) your child deserves to have his/her parents around for a reasonable amount of time.
3) your energy level won't be what it once was
These are the main reasons... for me anyway.
I started late also... had my first at 38... and having my second at 39. I promised myself that 40 would be the cutoff for me... and I'm sticking to it.

Answer 10

my mother had my brother when she was 41 and as long as you are fertile you can conceive do you feel as if you are to old because as long as you love the child its all good some say that older parents do a better job then young ones they have already gotten there recklessness out of the way and don't feel as if the baby is holding them back and look at all the grandparents raising they're grand kids because something happened to the parents and they do just fine