he goes crasy and spanks me really hard now. im 12 and dont know what to do. it is really scary
2006-09-16 15:48:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
Get an adult You can trust like a teacher, counselor or minister to visit you at home if possible. Not to get your dad in trouble, but to help him. He probably needs grief counselling and won't go. If you can get someone to go to your house "for you" it might wake him up, or bring him to an understnding or acceptance of his need for counselling. I won't give any more ideas or details, I think it would be best if the adult of your choosing handles the situation in a way that would be natural to him or her. Sorry about your brother and good luck with your dad.
2006-09-16 15:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad. I agree with spanking--but it sounds like this is some kind of problem your father is having with your brother's death.
I am not a psychologist and can not explain all the things that could be going on with your Dad. But I suggest you talk to him about it. Explain that you understand why you are spanked sometimes--but that it seems of late you have been getting a lot more and they are a lot harder--and you are really trying to behave.
Is your Mom or a close relative or even an adult relative around that you can talk to. If so please do so.
Unless this is a beating--please don't go to the school counselor or other official authorities. I am afraid they may interpret this as abuse--and get involved--and very likely could make it harder on your Dad and your family. On the other hand if he is beating you--you have no choice but to report it. Although I do not know how to define what is a beating and what is a spanking--almost everyone knows the difference when they see it. If you would like to post another question with more detail on what these "spankings" consist of people might be able to give you a little better answer.
With all that said. Is it possible that you just happen to be at an age when because of your behavior you deserve and need more spankings? I have heard many parents say that you are at an age when they found they needed to increase the number of spankings they gave.
Please get back to everyone with a few more details. And please talk with your Dad.
2006-09-17 16:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your father is obviously distraught about loosing a child. It is the worst thing that can happen to a parent. So, he is trying to be certain you are very straight and will not do something foolish. He is scared of loosing you. However, that does not justify his spanking you at all. This is something you can try to discuss with him and your mother, Preferably with another adult present, such as you clergyman or school guidance counselor. If that does not help, then you have to kick it up a notch and speak to someone in a family court or counseling service.
2006-09-17 11:04:22 · answer #3 · answered by brucenjacobs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it would be best if you talked to your teacher or principal at school now.... He may need some help to get over his loss.
He should not take it out on you.
If you fell your life may be in jeopardy do not hesitate to call the police or 911 if you need to.
Is there a mother? Is he taking it out on her too? If so, he needs help. Talk to someone before it is too late. We do not want him doing something now that he will regret the rest of his life.
2006-09-16 15:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by xtrapr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try finding out what the will that your father left behind said if he had one. if he does it should say where you are to go. if he doesn't I guess you should probably try getting some relatives or very close friends to help you out and take you into their house. I feel so bad for you. I can't imagine losing both your parents at a young age.
2016-03-27 04:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid talking to him about it if you are scared of him. Try to stay away from him if at all possible. Talk to your counselor or teacher at school. I am sure he is grief stricken, but I am sure you are to. Losing your brother must be traumatic, and you shouldn't have to suffer physical abuse on top of it. Grief counseling would be good for both of you. It's best for you to get another adult to help you with this issue. Good luck buddy.
2006-09-16 16:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by Siddova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to him about it. Do you have another parent/guardian in the house? You may wish to speak to he/she about it as well.
He is probably upset, but that is not an excuse for taking some of his pain out on you. Just try to be understanding when you speak to him and tell him that you don't like to be hit as part of your punishment.
2006-09-16 15:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by goldfish65398 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel very bad for you!!! I think you father feel bad about brother and it not fair he take it out on U i think you should talk to him and say how yu feel. I am 12 too and i know its scarey to be spanked hard!!!!
2006-09-16 18:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom. or dad. if he reacts in any weird way, hits you or any family member tell. tell a teacher or friends, anyone you can trust. i am 10. i know i a just a little girl but trust me. i don't want to scare you but it may get deadly. ma bey your dad is just sad. if the talking does not work and you get very injured tell a police.
2006-09-16 15:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by Carol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh! you poor thing!! I think maybe your dad is very upset about your brother dieing! how and when did that happen? write me back! im here for you ill help you thru this!!
2006-09-16 15:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by sittinsouthernsis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋