she lives with her first love ex boyfriend and has sex with me she says she loves me and she loves him in a different way that she cant explain. she says they dont have a sexual relationship with him.he doesant know shes seeing me.she doesnt sleep with him she says wich i believe to be true. they do have separate bedrooms.she dosent want me at their house.he works out of town .am i stupid i really love her.
2006-09-16 15:47:18 · 19 answers · asked by troubled 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I like women and tend to give them the benefit of the doubt,. but she is living with him, and you are her sex toy. If that's all you want, fine, otherwise, go find some lady that appreciates you,.
2006-09-16 15:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She lives with her ex...in separate bedrooms so she says, yet she does not want you to visit her there. She has a sexual relationship with you and states she doesn't have a sexual relationship with her ex...and she further states she loves you and him in different ways. Well it is quite possible to love more than one, but it's based on the "type" of love. She may love him as an ex acquaintance, which is more like the love for a close friend, or it can be more. She has an intimate love for you, but I feel it's more from lust and desire (be it desire for you, for the intimacy, or for the danger of cheating). To be honest, it's quite clear regardless of whether she has different love regarding the two of you that she is a bit more involved with this "ex" than what she is telling you. I don't want to jump the gun on this, but this definitely requires a more detailed discussion and perhaps some ultimatums. If she loves you as she says she does, then you need to get clarification and see exactly what's going on and where her heart truly lies, but as of now, sad to say, it sounds like she is having her cake and eating it too.
2006-09-16 22:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by Urban Xiansheng 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gonna say you're stupid cause love will make even the best people do stupid things. I find it hard to believe this is truly her situation but that's for you to access yourself. I just personally think that w/ their living arrangements, she shouldn't be opening another door w/o closing the other first & she needs to do that before trying to get involved any futher with you. Save yourself some heartache..especially if she can't explain why she's into you, other than sexually.
2006-09-16 23:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by NicNac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this girl is shopping, and keeping her options open. She's not trustworthy.
You may stay along for the ride, but don't dump a lot of work into this. I don't see it getting yo very much more than some easy sex.
2006-09-16 22:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your key phrase is he doesn't know about you. Ask yourself why not. Why can you just not go to her house for dinner if its okay. What is she the only woman in the world who can live rent free of course she doesn't sleep with him No of course not. Have you seen the seperate bedrooms Hello mister you are kidding yourself. I keep looking at your question and asking myself is it that good why does he love someone who can lie like that.
2006-09-16 22:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by lona b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Super weird situation. Is she married to him? She cant really be in love with both of you.
There are degrees of love, but in youre situation I think she's not committed to pursuing more with you beyond sex. The other guy, have no clue what that situation is about.
2006-09-16 22:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she is being honest and maybe she is.
She shouldn't be hidding that from her ex that she is with a man that makes her happy. I'm sure he would be happy that she has found someone else that could give her life that she always wanted.
OR........
Maybe your just the dirty little secert that she is hidding from even him. Maybe she wants to have her cake and eat it too. Do you really want to be a bizzard love triangle?
2006-09-16 23:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you already know the answer to this question.
i think you just want to hear affirmations that you're right.
so let me confirm - SHE'S CHEATING ON YOU.
if you really love her, you don't deserve to be her piece on the side. if you're in this for what she's in it for - the sex - then you shouldn't feel bad. but ask yourself this - WHY DO YOU KNOW ABOUT HIM, BUT HE DOESN'T KNOW ABOUT YOU?
I think she's in love with him and plannig to share her life with him, and has you as the dessert after the main course. walk away with some dignity. i bet you she wouldn't even flinch if you told her you were breaking it off. try it. you'll see.
2006-09-16 22:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by tatjana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well one thing is for sure she can have sex with two men..what does that say of her...regardless if she loves you or not...dont you love yourself more than that --to put up with that nonsense---the answer is no--if she loved you shed would not be with him and if she loved him she would not be with you---she loves the attention-you deseve better. do you actually believe she isnt having sex with him....did you wake up yet or are you still dreaming?
2006-09-16 22:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by tiff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she can...it's hard to make a choice
try tacking to her and explaining that u want her just for yourself and u are not too happy about this situation...but don't press her..u might loose her if u do so
2006-09-16 22:49:58 · answer #10 · answered by Diana_84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋