What are the impacts of children spending overnights at their father's house during a school week?

Question

we live in two different towns 5 miles apart
the children start school an hour apart from each other
different routines

Answer 1

One problem I have found is with the different rules at each house. when my aughter goes to her fathers house, she is allowed to stay up late, and sleep late, and whenever she comes home it takes a couple of days for her to straighten out her attitude, and to get her back on schedule. If you and your husband agree on things such as homework, and bedtime and so forth it may be fine - you just have to see how your child handles the change. Also your child may try to pull the "I left my books at moms/dads house, and cant do my homework" or something along those lines. Just some things to think about.
Also - when I was young my parents had joint custody where I was one week at my moms, one week at my dads and that was hard due to remembering where to go. If it is just for a day or so, and not everyday it may be difficult to get your child to remember where he or she needs to go

Answer 2

Depends on how old the children are and if dad can is a good manager. Kids need stability and routine. I'm against having children spend the night on weekdays. If dad makes sure the kids are at school on time, picks them up on time, helps them get their homework done, and gets them to bed at a decent hour at least they get to see him during the week. That's one of the downfalls of broken families.

Answer 3

It shouldn't be too big of a problem since you all live so close to each other. If they kids have to be at school earlier when they stay with dad maybe they could go to be an hour earlier. Work it out for the children's sake because THE BEST PARENT IS BOTH PARENTS.

Answer 4

Well I have the same position as you. I have four wonderful children but 3 goes to school. I live like about 20 mintues from my soon to be ex husband and I guess its doing well beside I need to drop them off and pick them up due to his truck is broken. Anyway You should just let him have them on the weekends if he decides I mean if not ask the childrens what's best for them.

Answer 5

I have seen both sides to this questions as my children DO NOT spend the night at their dads on a week night as he does not get them up in time, doesn't get them to school on time, never feeds them breakfast, and they end up at school tired, late, hungry and without their books and homework.

A friend of mine however has 4 kids that spend Tues-Thurs with him and he does everything he can to make sure they are up on time, well fed, have everything they need to make it a great day.

It seems that the key is a set routine for the kids that works for them and sets them up for success. After all, its about the kids, not about us.

Good luck!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

it shows them that life is not easy sometimes and it opens there world to being more felexable in life as lone as you two handle it right

Answer 8

If he can get them to school on time,,,why not?

Answer 9

Kinda confuses them don't you think.