Have offered her my help in any thing they can think of - butr what's making me ask is that - the 25 yr old son was a brilliant guy and she had high hopes - he was supporting her - she is an old lady - the courage to move on might be .........
2006-09-16 15:32:47 · 7 answers · asked by Ric 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If it's just a neighbor, and not a friend, now is not the time to try to create a friendship. It would be kind of you to stop by with some kind of covered-dish such as a casserole, potato salad, or something else ready-to-eat. Tape an index card to it with your name and phone number, and a note that says "I'm here if you need me." Do they have a dog? Offer to feed or keep it for a while. Do they own a business? Perhaps you could help by taking phone calls or something. Bottom line, if you aren't close, a good neighbor will offer a hand and be available if needed. You will not be able to help them emotionally if you don't already know them. If you are friends, then you are already welcome in the home and you should try to be there for them as much as you can without being a pest. It's a touchy situation, but you don't want to just ignore them at this, their most horrendous time of their lives.
2006-09-16 15:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by Robert M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine what you're dealing with is really wide-spread thinking your situations. i do not imagine there is something incorrect with you yet you're of direction dealing with each and every of the diverse stages of grief and may want to have some days that are worse than others. don't be too demanding on your self and do not anticipate too a lot of your self both. you've lengthy previous by really a lot the worst difficulty that could want to ensue to you. i imagine you need to take in the destiny at a time, and do not placed stress on your self. i do not recognize your household or chum difficulty yet once you've help in those elements then perhaps you would possibly want to attempt to spend time with those human beings and also get someone to safeguard your children on occasion and function a even as to your self. perhaps if you're taking pills that could want to really help you they could nicely be doing extra harm than sturdy in the experience that they are antidepressants. I went by the shortcoming of my boyfriend many years in the past and in spite of the actual undeniable reality that i did not have childrens it develop right into a really confusing time. The discomfort takes a lengthy time period to bypass away, yet as time is going on you'll come across effortless techniques to manage better and also you fairly turns right into a stronger individual as a effect of having lengthy previous by this. in case you may live on this you may live on something. Did you've grief counselling? I did and that i in basic terms went about 3 circumstances in spite of the undeniable fact that it made me realize that everybody grieves in a unique way and copes in a unique way and also you need to do what's ideal for you. i desire this facilitates. Take care
2016-11-27 19:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you cant say anything to comfort her don't say anything at all, I know it's hard. I have lost 2 kids of my own. If she believes in God assure her that the lord will now take care of her boy. And that the lord needs good people in heaven to help him with his things.
It has been 6 years sense I lost my boy, and 2 sense I lost my little girl. you can never get over it but support from friends and family can make things better. just help her out with things around the house mow her lawn, things like that.
2006-09-16 15:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by THE GEMINI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you are her neighbor, look for very practical ways to support her. Mow her lawn. Bring her meals (tell her in advance so she won't start to prepare a meal). Give her a sympathy card too.
2006-09-16 15:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by John Mc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be supportive that will be the best thing and help out where ever you can
2006-09-16 15:34:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry about the loss but just be there for them when people loose peoplke they love they dont know what anyone can do but if they know you are there for them it will help
2006-09-16 15:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by shasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
soory to hear!
give her more supports and try to be her new son.......
2006-09-16 20:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by merisha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋