Like my other question I still miss him and sometime I don't, But I really want to make it work. It's gonna be hard because the women he cheated with his still with her but I need some advice if there's still chance for us should I ask him if he would make our marriage work and go to counseling r should I just move on.
2006-09-16 15:26:43 · 8 answers · asked by Hawaiianlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you trying to use Yahoo7 Answers to write your autobiography?
From reading your previous questions, it certainly looks like you are !!!
Correct me if I am wrong, but are you not the one who is applying for the divorce???
In your last question (two hours ago), you mentioned that you wish you could bring things a lot more closer…
Yet you are divorcing him !!!
In a previous question you mentioned that your ex-husband (even though you are still married) was seeing a much younger person a week before you got separated.
In the question immediately following that one, you blamed her for stealing your husband and breaking your family apart.
Then you asked a question, in which you mentioned that your husband wants to get back together with you, for the sake of the kids.
OK… you have focused a few of your questions on the ‘girlfriend’ that your husband is now with. In one of the questions, you mentioned that she had been seen cheating on your husband, and you wondered whether you should tell him.
I’m not going to comment on that…
What I will comment on, is the fact that since the separation, you have been dating other men.
Let’s not lose sight of things here… You are still married !!!
You can criticise him for cheating on you if you want to, but let’s not forget that by you dating other guys whilst you are still married, you are technically cheating on him as well !!!
The sad thing though, is that you are both cheating on your kids !!!!!!!!!!!
The following is a question you asked…
“How can I ask my oldest daughter who's only 10years old about how she feel about me and her dad separation?
I have three daughters and one son my oldest daughter is having a hard time accepting me and my husbands separation. She is constant using bad words toward me and her siblings especially her grandparents. Since the separation everyday for our children especially my oldest she is getting worse. I just don't know what to do with her.
In all that I read throughout your previous questions, this is the only one where you have mentioned the word ‘counselling’.
You are tearing your kids’ hearts apart, lady !!!
Don’t you think that your children at least deserve for you and your husband to sit down and talk to a counsellor???
Your husband has already told you that he wants you both to get back together for the sake of the kids, which suggests to me that he is prepared to try to work things out in the marriage.
So how about you forgetting the crap about you missing your husband, and damn well do something about it.
You can start by tearing up those divorce papers you are preparing, and make a bloody appointment to see a counsellor !!!
2006-09-16 16:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to move on. If he cheated once he will do it again and again and you deserve more. But if you really want to work things out just ask him to go, if he really loves you and wants to be with you he won't have a problem.
2006-09-16 15:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by Almond_Joy82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to make it work, and it sounds like you do, then ask him to go to counseling with you.
2006-09-16 15:29:39 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am in the same place as you are. I can't give up. I love him to much to "let him win". I won't give up without a fight. Push the counseling. If he goes for it you are in better shape than me. Good luck.
2006-09-16 17:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anna L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is still with the "other woman" then it doesn't sound like he regrets cheating on you. Move on with your life.
2006-09-16 15:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by cmhenshaw7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's go to counseling to see if we can work things out.
It's as simple as that.
2006-09-16 15:30:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He is a cheat and will continue to use you if he can.
2006-09-16 15:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on you deserve better,he will cheat on her too.
2006-09-16 16:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋