I'm married for 24 years and have known my wife since she was 9 and I was 13. We've raised our little guys past adolescence and they took some of the spark out of our closeness as you can expect through the years.
Does anyone have suggestions on this before we become "old dogs" that can't be taught new tricks. ARF!
2006-09-16 15:17:11 · 12 answers · asked by The Global Community 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Start doing the things you did “way back then”. Remember how you won her heart in the first place. Start “dating” her again. Go out, have fun, get away from the day to day business of running the household. Little weekend trips are a great way to start the flames burning again. It is hard to get a fresh mindset in the same setting (you house) where you spend all your time taking care of things.
2006-09-16 17:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by 75160 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a great husband to ask that. Most would care less. I have only been married 3 years and have an 11 month old but I would love to tell you what would work for me. Surprise her with a trip back to where you met or proposed. Make it like it was then meaning a picnic or ice cream or whatever was going on. Tell her that you love her more today than ever because of the beautiful family that you could not of had without her. Buy her a new diamond for her right hand and behave as if you were "engaged" again. She will look at you like old times and sparks will continue!!!! Good luck.
2006-09-16 23:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Mouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why don't both of you go out and join a dance class and learn some new dances, like Merengue, Salsa and Cha-cha-cha? Then, also brush up on your Disco moves. Go on a cruise and and enjoy a nice vacation together, just you two ALONE! Leave the kids behind with a relative. This way, you can enjoy each other's company away from the ho-hum of everyday living? That's a start. Start doing things together. Get a pair of bicycles (yeah, his & hers) and take regular bike rides to "get in shape" (it's just an excuse to get out and enjoy being together). Then, take a beginner's photography class and a beginner's swim class or an aerobics class TOGETHER.
When she's doing the dishes or just cooking, go over and grab her butt! Let her know she's still your main "squeeze." Surprise her when you go to the store for her and bring her some flowers or some other unexpected treat. She'll ask you why and you tell her, "Because I've forgotten to tell you I love you on too many occasions!" Hey, open the door for her and be the courting gentleman... you haven't forgotten, have you? Let her catch you leering at her when she's coming out of the shower! Grab her boobs every now and then (she'll think you're crazy... so?) And don't forget to let her know that you love her!
Get in shape together and suport one another in your efforts. Serve as moral support for one another. Enjoy each other's company! THAT's how you renew the romance in the marriage!
2006-09-16 22:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have only been married a year (our anniversary is a week away!), but one thing we both really enjoy are back massages. And several times a week we give them to each other while we're watching TV. It's relaxing, it's fun and feels wonderful. Also consider going out on a date night - hit fun restaurants, go see movies, do anything you feel like. One thing we do every year is stay overnight at a bed and breakfast - they usually provide gourmet breakfasts (who can resist that) and they are a fun chance to getaway without going too far. You can usually see the rooms online and decide which one is best for you - and they are romantic; some rooms come with fireplaces and jacuzzi tubs. Enjoy yourselves!!
2006-09-16 22:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start "dating" again! Just getting out of the house and doing fun things together can strengthen the bond between two people. Discover a new hobby together like playing golf, sailing, hiking, ect.
Suprise her with romantic gestures (making dinner, flowers, a foot rub).
Take a vacation together.
How did the two of you fall in love? Is there anyway to relive that experience?
I hope this helps. Good Luck!
2006-09-16 22:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by cmhenshaw7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go somewhere you've never been and know nothing about. Buy all new clothes for your trip, try strange foods, talk to strangers. A little change of scenery will spark a lot of romance.
2006-09-16 22:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question and honesty. Does she share the feeling or is she simply tired?
a) Listen to her.
b) Treat with so much tender consideration.
c) Be spontaneous.
d) Go on a cruise.
2006-09-16 22:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 4 28 YRS AND WE HAVE ONE SON AND HISFLY LIVING W/ US WHILE THEY ARE IN COLLEGE SOME TIMES WE HAVE TO TAKE A FEW DAY AND GO SOMEWHERE ALONE EAT OUT TAKE LONG WALKS ROMATIC SHOWERS BACK RUBS ECT ECT IT JUS SEEMS TO MAKE US REALIZE HOW MUCH WE LOVE EACH OTHER AND NEED EACH OTHER AFTER ALL WHEN ITS ALL SAID AND DONE WE ARE ALL WE GOT THE BOYS ARE ALL GROWN W/THER OWN FLY AND FRIENDS GOOD LUCK
2006-09-16 23:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent a cabin, in the mountains,by the ocean, or by a lake, for a weekend. It will charge your batteries up!!
2006-09-16 22:25:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she loved when you were newly weds or just dating. What were some of the things you did for her? Express what you loved that she did!
2006-09-16 22:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by tod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋